Lynda Mac

Well I just want to say that I hope & pray that just 1 of these private/ public cases goes on to win in the UK Secret Family Courts in 2010.

The other sad fact is, it is the only court were you get the life sentence to do in the community and all the hard efforts and long hours being put in   working  your case can come to  nothing at all in this country .

Some people will only pity you for trying to fight back, in a system that you can not win .

The more  obvious reason  why most cases can not win , is that it takes it’s toll  on your health as the many years stack up, the constant stress of  it all takes it out of you.

I can only imagine  prison  life is so much kinder on you & the planet .In terms of you would be cared for and looked after have all mod cons a gym  access to education  even a solicitor may fight your case lol(and pigs may fly).

When in reality you  are left single handed  to do your part in damaging the planet, by creating more paperwork to be done  for court, more paperwork to  be shredded  by the Local Authority  Cafcass which was primarily given top table in court and  put before some bent judge in a Kangeroo court.

The significant   loss in terms to you the appellant will be by now adding even more &  more time  to your sentence,consuming yet    more of you in your personal life your time off your working life and moreover  it is still   important to note stealing money in a recession from taxpayers, which is   generated in revenue for the courts. This just has to be a burden to all families in society and if you could see the  true scale of the money being made by all & sundry  is a Criminal Act in the making.
The alternative is : try living, or existing from  day to day  in society, with no real purpose in life after a massive disruption and coping with a great loss without access to adequate counselling.

There is no other way to put this except ,this is a fact” you are all guilty  like I was of doing either nothing about the system, or looking the other way ,” or simply of turning off when families try to tell you about it.  It is very clear I am no different in so much as I  to am paying  just like thousands of  other families that  have gone before me .I am paying the price  for my “utter ignorance surrounding privacy laws in Family Courts”.

Just how many more Families  must fall in the Family War  before we really open the eyes of  the general public ? Or shall we just shut up and sit back and join the solicitors laugh at make loads of money too in an attitude of can’t beat them join them?

Nothing will change at all in  the last  5 years  I have been  social networking,   we can see no change as more  families & courts & social services all fall prey to solicitors.

Now then how do you think you will cope after the closed family court experience ? When this 1 shoe fits all.

I hope  in the New Year  2010 I hope we  really get  justice and not  more spin from Jack Straw.

Final last message to Jack Straw it is time you stopped doing a U turn on the Clayton V Clayton ruling,why not  stay on course, meet us head on and sort this mess out like anyone with a  sense of what is right , a sense of fair play or access to justice. Jack my message to you  is do an honest days work and reform the laws from within for families like US.

Please give us JUSTICE ,and stop stealing our future generations of children for forced adoption and if you do steal the child make sure you leave a genetic key for the child………

I think how can I  justify  wasting anymore or time on complaints.This is exactly what I am doing complaining and finding traffic on my blog with yet more families searching for help regarding closed family courts.

I do not hope it is  a case of : I look back and think was that a complete waste of time ,as this time has gone and I will never get to spend it again .

The plus side of this is, it creates more work in terms of creates more information which is not in the media yet , with  more contacts for people  behind the scenes to access help with their cases which is the positive side of all of this.It is vital to be seen to be  helping others to access important information to be shared with each other.

This is the opposite of what the multi- agency groups do for court. They can not even do this right as they concentrate on pulling data which is so not relevant to cases .

Sad when you think about it yet more time off my life ,as if I have not been through enough already .

Some days I think enough is enough when the phone rings  and it is another desperate parent asking for help . I am still left working my own way through  a system of  complaints  about the courts,a  system which it clearly protects the interests of professionals,so that  you can never win this is the equivalent of being  as close to madness as you can ever get  ?

Then I look at the blog statistics on here seeing who has visited.I get an interesting selection of people on this blog from media ,to barristers  then mostly  families or  people who searching for answers to the same questions I had  over 5 years a go.

I also now get more hits than the experts on the search engine. I now  come out top of them most days on a search engine.As people read what I have to say regarding our experience of having met them and read what papers they have written over the years.

The awful thing is, this will never stop happening to other families unless we all do our part to  expose the system for what it is. Were once people felt so sorry for us as a family ,now people admire me for fighting back against the system.

I just hope that you are not the next person to be typing in similar  questions like Patrick Persuko solicitor ,or solicitor stitched me up.

Take my lead and do a blog  use the tag section to everyone that made a profit from harming your family . Then add it to another blog roll and watch it rise to top of the google after you drop it on Facebook keep going it will help others understand  what they are up against ,and it will also make life a lot more difficult for solicitors to betray their clients and rip money off from the public purse.

http://www.borneolinnells.co.uk/ The message to Borneo Linnells  solicitors is this, is very bad for business, the paperwork has been shown what  very little this firm of solicitors has done for   the young child client paid for out of the legal aid funding .

Borneo Linnells solicitor’s never represented his best interests, or protected him when he needed help, they done nothing at all in respect of this child’s long term interests for contact with his family.

I would like to know from other mothers did Patrick Perusko take your child out for the day? I do not remember him asking to do this I had PR and he never thought to ask my permission to take him out to a Rugby Match he just took him out.

When I think about all the wonderful trips & the life we had in the days before a care order was taken out. I could just stop and say the legal game is over now it is all academic to say I am a mother who could not look after myself or my children. The fact is this they won and i lost custody of my son. The question you should be asking is how well do you think you could do in a secret court if this happened to you . Then would you ever trust a solicitor or a doctor with your life?

I want you to type in a name of an expert you had , I kicked off with my experts .If you all take my lead and justify the time spent in private chat on Facebook to blog and drop on a social networking site this will help many families by educating them with information which they so desperately  need to survive the system is to understand how it works against  you .

I hope that some families will come together with many complaints and push through the complaints procedure to deal with experts. This way we might just have some justice  for the wrong doing done or serious miscarriages of justice taking place in secret courts. If we do nothing about it,then  these same experts will habitually rule the courts to go on to destroy more families with theories which are out of date, or have no real meaning or data or research given for studies used in evidence against parents.

Who are you complaining about ?I am complaining about these 3 experts here r Claire Sturge , Dr Anthony Wilkins Psychiatrist & Graham Flatman Psychologist  and I think how can you not help others going through the same corrupt system by naming and shaming these individuals who get paid thousands for doing reports for court .In some cases like Dr Wilkins he has another warning from the GMC for writing reports without even meeting Miss P

These professionals do not expect you to be in any fit state to be dealing with complaints after your final hearing. Many families just do not have the fight left in them at this stage , and most are either too scared, or exhausted to complete the transaction part of the complaints without a proper disclosure of paperwork to do this.

Today I received a letter from “The Solicitors Regulation Authority” have said they are opening up a file concerning Patrick Persuko which is something I failed with the complaints to Social Services I never got past the 1st stage of complaints. Caffcass destroyed their file they should have kept on record too.

Did I ever tell you this  I am related to James Larkin from my  nanny  Mc’s side she was a Larkin. This must be were the energy & drive comes from .

h this must be ttp://www.spartacus.schoolnet.co.uk/IRElarkin.htm

Well as it is getting nearer to a New Year I have to now confess to being a blogger who sometimes more often than not sits in my night wear 05:30 am in the morning with a cup of T & toast and is clicking on a keyboard …..as if I do not start then I would not get time to blog at all what with the case and everything else that is going on  there is never enough hours in the day.

Besides,all the offices are now closed now with Social Services & Courts  it seemed pointless to continue working on the case so I had time out too. Thank you so much to the couple who have invited me out to Spain I will come out soon as I can. I am sure I will be departing post hospital appointment  and post court appearance is out of the way .

I do not know about you I spent Christmas  here on my own,which I have quiet got used to it now .It was  so peaceful and it was short lived with far too many phone calls on Boxing Day.I spent time out thinking about my family and my son who I have not spoken to for 3 years now.

I did not feel like company  either on Boxing Day or Shopping  I tried to get into the swing online and could not be bothered with this either . This is the way life has been  for  me for the last 5 years now living as a single woman and not a single parent.The fact is I have adapted well to the single life at 50 years old. I have got very single minded and selfish in my old age. Plus I am not going to be seen as a nutter arguing over contact in court. I lost end of . I just want to know if I can leave a genetic key for C .

I lost my parents many years ago when I was very young 17 years old my father died  then later  34 years old when my mother died I am an only child however I have a large extended family scattered throughout the UK so I am not without support or family at all.

So  this was the start of all our trips abroad &  travelling to different countries I have mostly been free from a commitment other than living life to the full.

It was never a serious attempt to avoid Christmas with relatives it just happened.And losing the major players like parents seems to have given me forgive me that  release to go on to  do anything at Christmas and with my life  .So I learned very well how to avoid the  other invites, I mean can you think of  a good enough reason for not wanting to be at home for Christmas?

The reminder was too painful so I planned a budget and started packing our suitcases well into advance of these awful months ahead . And if anything happened in the meantime I  also had a back up plan if this failed. All of this experience of being alone but , and bringing up children on my own financially,  has stood me in good stead I had no choice but to get on with life. So all the travelling & socializing has greatly  contributed to my survival post Family Courts .

Then the awkwardness of it all, when well meaning friends & family invite you simply because they feel sorry for you or want to fill in the void.

Thanks for all the offers, but it is sometimes better to stay at home if this is what you want to do.

Normally  when we were a family we would travel,just like most families.  I used to observe we were   not alone either as thousands of Brits fly out to Spain ,Cyprus and quickly we would blend in and have fun at the Gala Dinners.  Mostly we would fly out to the Canary Islands  and a typical day would start with having   breakfast and head for the beach.  I do not feel fit to fly out right now but that is still what I would have wanted for Christmas.

So as I now know loads of families online and have met up with some of  them in London  ,this year I extended a warm invitation to those families living apart from loved ones maybe some of us could think about a great escape and go and link up with other families abroad & in Ireland that we have got to know over the years.  A quick video went out on the spur of the moment ,as an open  invitation on Facebook to other families who are living extra ordinary lives living in exile from Social Services & Courts we are here for you just a call away if you need us.

I think others will agree with me now when I say this ,I see no justifiable  reason to marginalize families who have no criminal record for child abuse .The suffering is continuous until they are  find their lost loved ones. These families   have suffered enough by wrongfully removing their children. The more social workers and courts try to destroy these innocent families the more support will go in favour of these families online and in the community and  another fact is this is because Justice has not been seen to be done. Another fact is  this Social Services  would like to make sure families like us are not included in society also that many of these families are exposed to feeling depressed, and left isolated  as they are not in  a group which is considered inclusive  any more socially or worth any real value except to claim lots of funding from a public purse to destroy lives with perjury.

So what really happens to the children at this time of year when  all the social workers have gone home and the solicitors are not on call ?

Who is looking at the children’s best interest now ,well   consider this  there is nobody interested in the children now ,as emergency back up for looked after children or children at risk they will all wait, until they have got the Christmas & New Year Period and massive hangovers are out of the way,and the latest budget is in from Central government arrives.Then no doubt y there will be ACTION!

So the what really happens to all the children in a crisis this time of year or at risk or stuck in hospital,or in care all alone without a phone call home?

Just like my son C was all alone on Christmas Day without a call home…..

I would just  so love to post a letter on here from a social worker  Julie Tadd social worker ,who had warned me not too take my sons temperature whilst in Purple Professionals contact centre in Dunstable or  in contact anywhere esle as they would stop the contact there and then.

Within hours of sending this letter out to me saying I got the reading wrong, my son was admitted with a viral infection to the L&D hospital early hours of 25th December 2005 .

I have found so much evidence in C’s medical notes  like the nurse telling Grace Human the foster carer ,”it is your responsibility to tell the mother when he is in hospital” .

She never did tell me,  so as a result of this on the surface it must of looked to all intent and purpose like  I could not be bothered.  I even missed appointments due to her blanking me out of my sons contact. She allowed me a phone call when I got ill with food poisoning prior to this I had no indirect contact with C. Now I know she had to do this to get him to attach to her and break our loving bond we had as a family.

The oh so friendly Foster Carer  said to the nurse” get her off the ward I am not coming on till she has gone!”Grace Human was livid with me for highlighting my child spiked a temp I was told to take a temperature on contact at times when he was having treatment .

It is serious if children pick up an infection when on chemotherapy. Alison Dowsett sister at Addenbrookes told me that at a lower reading of 37.7 C got into difficulty. I was stuck in that dingy back room on the ground floor with the smelly bathroom in the end of terraced house know as “The Purple Professionals”  I rang the Rabbit ward straight away as the traffic was bad in Dunstable always is at night time. I read out temp reading as I listened  to the doctor he asked where we were ? I said speak to this care worker and get us out of here. Julie the care worker did not have a clue what neutrapenic meant to C or what a viral infection could do either.

I am reading more evidence which was not disclosed to me by my solicitor Liz Oldham  Machins Luton  of a planning meeting they had  17th January 2005 the same FC  advised ,said my son never asked to see me at all……. Imagine if he ever gets to read this ?

The conact worker J was sitting with us in the Halfway House on Christmas eve  having a meal with my youngest  son & oldest son who was put in care on an EPO in May 2004 ,my poor child was trying to eat a meal and his mouth was so sore from the treatment of drugs he was on at that time, also if affected the taste of the food .C  was in the middle of treatment at the time for Leukaemia he could hardly eat a thing.

This was so out of order getting me into thousands of pounds of debt to go to supervised contact in the community in the winter with a special needs child. I was stupid to let them walk all over me when we had a lovely home not 5 minutes drive from the Halfway House Restaurant .Hazel Simmons Labour MP was sitting on a near by table I  know most of the Labour councillors on the Lewsey Farm  Estate where we live .I said hello to her as she dined  with her daughter.

I was made to pay out over £50 for a meal my child was not even able to eat as he was ill when he could have been brought to his own home been comfortable and just had a cuddle and some home made soup or something to eat I was not working at the time so £50 was a lot to spend eating out.

This was to be our last contact goodbye contact we just did not know this at the time behind my back they were working out plenty of contact before the judges decision to give the residency to the father.

The enormous strain he was under at times ,with trying to attend contact and pretend he was well enough for contact even  turning up in a lot of pain with his back I am lost for words to tell you I feel so special that someone would do this for me .

This must tell you how much we loved each other ,I am so blessed to have him for a son and the fact that he is my son and not someone else’s  son is enough for me to keep me going plus all of the happy memories we had of each other give me great comfort throughout these difficult times.

None of any of this matters at all what the courts the ex-partner saying he is not wanting to come to contact after being given a residency order. This will all end one fine day  when the truth comes out.So make sure you are looking after him for another Christmas until he is old enough to have his say.I have resined many years ago that I am not going to see my son in supervised contact and the Local Authority did not stop this contact I did as it was harmful and degrading an experience to have to go through. Plus think what I have saved the taxpayer on fees for costs to the LA …..

Christmas Day is a day I do not like to remember as it was heartless what the foster carer done to C left him on his own in isolation ward without a phone call from his family . She took my son to hospital after dropping him off at the contact centre the previous night and the best all of these so called professionals could do was threaten to stop contact.

His face was high in colour his temp reading was 38 which I was told was dangerous take him straight to hospital .So I was right something was up a mother knows her own child and when they are likely to be ill or coming down with something.

This case is all so academic when it comes down to it none of them would have a case at all if I had not taken my son for medical treatment on time. I saved his life, and that is a fact. My son was seriously ill and I got him back off holiday ,and brought him safely  home to  the UK off holiday which is a damn sight more than could be said for Madeline Mc Cann’s parents and both of them were doctors.

boys enjoying flashing lollypops

I  found out recently  that and Emergency Protection Order  can be over turned  within hours . This was never about supporting a family like us, it was merely an exercise in destroying a family and making the maximum amount of money from the public funding.

I would like at ask any  professional just how you would expect a traumatized and shocked mother to be in total control and able to be a good witness for court containing  her emotions  ? Given the facts that the she has recently found out her child has Leukaemia and had no help whatsoever?

I was caught off guard whilst our world was turned upside down.My experience now is to not trust in anyone again after our experience of lawyers making money out of our misery.

So what was a typical day like back then in Addenbrooke’s hospital ,it was  a very expensive  day, with paying for everyday living expenses and trying to keep a child entertained from the Newsagents the debt was mounting up quickly .

A watchdog needs to go in and check out how much the average amount of money is being spent from car parks fees to a bottles of shampoo .It would be frightening to see how much the cost of food is on the concourse.The next important question is this,  is it really fair to charge this much to a captive audience.

This winter I am left wondering ,just  how some of  those families who  are like us, are  now surviving the whole leukaemia experience at Addenbrookes Hospital under complete surveillance of big brother & the security system? .

I would like to know under FOI how many other  families who lost their children at Addenbrookes on trumped up care orders, as the stats are showing me others are googling:” the what happens if they take out an EPO at Addenbrookes.

With the recent snow  storms hit the UK ,it must be your worst nightmare now the roads are impassable and parents can not get home for a break .There is everything there a that you can think of  like a  hairdressers a  sports centre,even  a social club at the back of the hospital however can you really afford the prices?

I was told that it was on offer to you as a family living onsite  to use the gym, then the only time I went for 1 session for a swim and sauna.  I found someone had written in their nurses notes I was always missing in the gym when the doctor came on the ward to speak to me on his rounds,this was simply not true but it is still on our file along with a lot of other comments which I say are hearsay and have not been evidenced at all.

At the time most of the nurses sat on a computer reading all the gossip about what the latest pop star had called her baby.Or going down to the laundry room to check out the clothes being washed. They wanted to know who the T-shirt “Gods Gift “printed on the front of it belonged to, it was  my eldest sons T shirt G ‘s ?just for the record the black  bra & knickers by Janet Reger  belonged to me.

Detained in Addenbrookes hospital 2004

There was absolutely no privacy onsite  at all when sharing  the big Acorn House either  so you have to be considerate at all times that  other grieving families needed their space.  G told me Linda Walker house manager asked him,”whose are those empty bottles of wine ?”

Are they your mothers?

No they were not  my bottles .I

bought a box of red Cuvee Prestige and shared this with other people in the house .

If you cooked a meal it was something quick  like salad or fried Salmon in the pan as the next family were waiting for to use the cooker . It was like Big Brother CCTV and eyes and pens to the ready for reports in meetings.

I was to read with horror later on a card was made for C to take with him , the family in the next bed wrote this: we hope you like your new home! or words to this effect. When they were sending him to a foster placement.What was wrong with the home he had here with me? My son’s case was discussed with other families they must have told them I was being done for neglect as well as emotional harm.

This has to be added to emotional harm as  emotional harm is something they use on you when they have nothing else on you .

commuting through London is getting too much now for me to be able to deal with.

The transcribes of the court case clearly state that I brought complaints about my sons care , please note how this can and will be switched around on you for Kangeroo court.

I stayed here over night to exhausted to travel anymore

on last holiday 2004 Puerto Rico Gran Canaria

These are some of  the kind of happy memories I have left of my son C , us on holiday  the last few days spent together in April 2004 in Puerto Rico Gran Canaria  on the top of a mountain  looking down into the sea from the swimming pool of the Gloria Place hotel.

C was singing the song from the advert off tv for the ice cream Just 1 Cornetto , he was quiet the entertainer ,was always happy and singing or joking around.

Then our world was shattered after he was diagnosed  27th April 2004 with T cell ALL ,this was a 2 days later when we returned off this last holiday,  we ended up in the intensive care ward of Addenbrookes hospital preparing him for his 3 years treatment ,by using a hydrating process to protect his organs from the damage the drugs can do to a young body.

Meeting The Threshold Criteria For Emotional Harm Allegation  for the Fact Finding Stage of Kangeroo Court.

Moving on now .I am often asked about the video camera ,I could see that we were not ever going to be coming home  at any rate . Even C observed this ,as he witnessed all of the other children going home on weekend leave “Mum when  am I going home ?”Please he would plead to me ,I want to go home we never got home off holiday,  he would continue to ask me.I never got any answers to my questions from the consultant . My GP rang me up and warned me ,back down you are guilty of asking far to many questions.” Then I was advised to change your attitude “, this was about attitude ,I did not care for Dr Burke, and another fact was  he did not care about letting us out of ward C2 with support to look after C at home, or to even go to GOS hospital if this was truly a personality clash or a communication problem.

I know I am not alone as the stats on this blog other families are  using a search engine and finding this blog by typing in :What Happens when they take out and emergency protection order at Addenbrookes hospital.

The last resort was to seek legal advice of a solicitor and if they would not listen to me ,then they would have to listen to the child’s wishes and feelings. I asked another parent to help me he carried in the camera bag. Then my oldest son G I said bring him in the play room and we will record what he is saying he wants and I will get him a solicitor.

This was used against me in Kangeroo court as I was to take it to a solicitor who had a contract for the Local Authority. The team manager in Luton Social Services LAC 3 “said it could be considered for emotional harm”.

I do know who said this and for their  own protection  I will not even hint at who said this someone said “this was not the outcome  the hospital wanted for us as a family . This was  not what they intended to happen to us at all.

If this is true then why did someone not step in and say something in my defense at the final hearing? Instead of saying nothing ,as expert Dr Claire Sturge gave evidence and made allegations about me in a closed court?

The words “SIGNIFICANT EMOTIONAL HARM & MUST BE PROTECTED FROM” are enough to seal the documents on care cases,  for children to go missing long term, in the care system or for closed adoption.

So this is my crime , being difficult ,complaining about the standard of care of my child and my child wanting to go home and who could blame him after 1 month if the treatment is working these children are ready to go home with basic training and support given to the family.

http://www.teenagecancertrust.org/support-network/jimmyteens/video/finding-chemo/

I will leave you to draw the analogy of this video above , and consider our video  the court accepted on the low probability as emotionally harming.A clear example of what is right for 1 family to do a video ,a court will decide meets the threshold criteria for emotional harm in a private court .

Only in the realm of a  secret family court is this said to harmful to the child ,when thousands of other families going about their daily lives   are using a video camera to document  issues that affect them when dealing with cancer .Take a look at the  blogs and loads of  other families campaigning &  fund raising all  doing You Tube videos.  Please also  take a  look at the JimmyTeens video the hospital have their own editor ,teenagers are  encouraged  alongside parents  to do  video diary of their experience of living with leukaemia,this includes hospital  stays, and dealing with a difficult part of your life. I think the real side of the difficulties are carefully edited out and the videos.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing . I wish I had done an under cover video of the complaints about the hospital  exposing some of the problems instead: highlighting the empty shelves with no bedding on the trolly.Fact   I was freezing with a lack of bedding for all of the beds .

My friend A pointed out the  young man,he said look at the state of that I am going to say something about that . A student cleaner who wore trainers thick with mud all over them who walked right onto a hospital ward which was said to be cleaned to a certain level, due to children being in neutrapenic  phase of their treatment and at risk of picking up infections ,which  could kill them when their immune systems were suppressed due to chemotherapy.

I have to say they have  a lovely gentleman  who is a chef in the kitchen who will do anything for the children. The other problem is this he does not work weekends .  The fact that Jamie Oliver would keel over at the thought of taking huge political steps to bring healthy eating into schools when children on ward C2 only had the choice of take or leave it McDonalds meal at the weekend as there was no chef on over the weekend.

This was a case of double standards and the hospital letting seriously letting down children 2 days out of 7 days in a week.

Do not what ever you do leave your child at a weekend as they will not get the care they deserve as their is a shortage of staff in Addenbrookes hospital at the weekend.

For most families they will not know what hits them when they find out that there child has leukaemia they say it can turn your life upside down this is an understatement we were no different in this respect it turned us upside down except we got a kicking instead of support.

I was collected 1 day by a woman who run Acorn House she walked down the corridor of C2 and walked me over to this is  accommodation to stay here in Acorn House in 2004 for a very short while .The truth was I could not stay on the ward as the  doctor was treating me as suspected TB patient and they were in panic mode  the risk to the sick children having treatment .

I was taken ill with a chest infection,pneumonia  whilst staying on a ward when my son had to have treatment for leukaemia . So I guess walking around in a face mask on the ward may have put many parents off.I was not the first to get ill or be rushed with exhaustion to A& E an I doubt I will be the last.

Acorn house was a kind of a refuge for families to stay on site as some families never get to go home again. There are some people  who are returning from time to time  to read my blog to find out what had  happened to us to cause the start of a court case.

Please let me  point out that  I am writing a book ,and there will be only piece meal sections to glean the real story about what happened to us you will have to wait for the book  ”When Will I Be Coming Home?” to be published.

So for any staff from Addenbrooke’s hospital reading this blog , hold onto your hats there will be  room for only a section for facts & truth about what really went on in 2004-2005, there will be no room fort hearsay or false allegations made by 3rd parties relaying to a kangeroo closed court ……

I am tempted to do a private section with nurses  hand held notes please be mindful that this paperwork has gone out to 3rd party now the GMC are pulling the transcripts from court  ……

So if you are in need of pain relief you know where to go ,as I am going to be brutal in my description of  certain staff on the ward,It is important to say that  some of the staff were lovely, and some of them well I think they need to resign and check into a mental heath ward for a rest themselves instead of trying to refer parents .

This was never what I would call a home from home experience. I was given a room with 2 single beds in it. Sometimes my eldest son slept in the bed next to me and my friend A took over a night shift giving us a break.

Just to re wind what happened ,and how I found out what was wrong with my son .I simply got off a plane from Gran Canaria we had been on holiday for 14 days ,I  checked out my bags at Luton Airport and took my very tired child ,who had a bad cough ,which got worst due to the flight to an NHS  Walkin centre. No big thing a low key visit rather than go straight to hospital and the rest is history. I was for the next few weeks sleeping rough on floors on cots without adequate bedding to keep me warm suffering from pneumonia.

So this is our experience of Addenbrookes Hospital , I had never met a doctor like it ,very high handed and no sense of humanity at all some of the staff were awful talking about parents in the next bed who had been up all through the night with their child were deemed unfit because the did not respond to the nurse waking them up in the morning.

I made complaints about my sons care and was fast tracked  to see psychiatrists after psychiatrists and a psychologist.

It is  also more important to be noted I had requested for us  to be moved to another hospital as I could not get any information from Dr Burke ward C2 when my son would be likely to come home or moreover how he was doing.This resulted in him trying taking out an EPO against me keeping my son locked in a ward when he was ready to go home it was necessary for statements to flow from many individuals working on ward C2 for court .

At the time I was scared to read the statements ,now I think the same could be said of the staff who committed perjury when writing them for court .The tide has changed and parents are showing this paperwork using the Clayton v Clayton ruling.

I have to state clearly when I say this was my son’s first every experience of  suffering from  neglect . For the first time ever,in his young life when he was heard to say I have had a wipe with baby wipes a nurse asked him have you had a bath . There was nobody there to give him a bath or hold his hand when he needed this.Why ? they got a court order and removed his mother who normally would do this for him  off the ward so he had to wait until a nurse asked him do you want a bath.

I have to say now that nothing prepares you for staying on a children’s ward and not being told when you will be going home and I mean nothing.

In the  first instance that I can remember was being  shown around by Linda Walker , she walked at a fast pace  with a clicker thing in her pocket  counting her steps as she went about her daily business.We got talking about stuff and  she had told me she stayed in the hotel next to ours in Gran Canaria we had both just returned back of holiday .It was our 4 holiday within 4 months to the date of finding out C had been diagnosed with leukaemia.

Later on  she gave me a room and a set of  keys, along with  a shelf with stickers to put on my food . 1 shelf in a cupboard and 1 shelf in a fridge freezer. I spent a very short time in here  it was the saddest place on earth surrounded by other grieving families from all walks of life. I eventually got out of Addenbrookes to go home for a couple of days .

I fell onto the first train which was heading into London.I had been told so many times in the last few weeks move . Move here go there ,for the first time in weeks I felt like sitting down and staying put.Do you have a 1st class ticket?  jobs worth the ticket collected pointed out it was first class. I asked how much for an upgrade paid this, and then got a bottle of wine and something to eat.

The only nice thing I can remember was  parent  who put fresh flowers on the massive dining table in Acorn House. I often wonder what happened to some of those parents &  their children how they are coping now and how many children survived the Addenbrookes experience. I know I am not the only 1 that lost care of their child as I see people find my blog when they type in EPO Addenbrookes what will happen…..

My son has spent the last 5 years waiting for answers what is wrong with his mother, making his own observations and clearly saying at 7 years old ,but so many other mothers can look after their children.He asked “why can’t she look after me all the other mothers can look after their children?”

My sons experience prior to this was of being well looked after and cared for there was never a time when there would have been a referral to social services.

We will all have to wait a bit longer to tell you this answer ,of why  I can not look after you for the same reason as the 30,000 other mothers can not look after their children(not so rare is it 30,000 other mothers all have this MSBP ).

If you throw a lot of taxpayers money at a court case , the experts will come up with a reason, and that label was originally intentionally used by Dr Sturge before anyone had  even read my medical notes. So I am just another victim ,who habeen slain once again by the use of the junk science theory MSBP so until I clear my name or make changes we will not be getting to see each other again.

http://www.teenagecancertrust.org/support-network/jimmyteens/http://www.sickchildrenstrust.org/homes/acorn_new141107.pdf

It seems even Peter Andre can not get sorted out some decent contact either , in “the famous Holborn Court First Avenue House.” My advice would be watch out  to both parents. Otherwise that back door will be used again for shark solicitors Coram & Cafcass to remove the children to forced adoption . Never say never with 1 shoe fits all  remember.

You should all know this they say it will be emotionally harmful for children to see a parent if the have cancer. It would be emotionally harmful! There are thousands of families who are dealing with cancer and there are no considerations made for those families so why would Peter Andre’s family be any different to ours? They never allowed me any contact when my son was ill in hospital on Christmas Day,we were  not even given a phone call this is brutal for a child in isolation in a side room. I never even got a phone call a card nothing when I went in hospital for major surgery .When  the school made arrangements for another child in the same class to visit the mother who knew my son and she had the same operation as me, she said they could have arranged a visit for you .

This is the side of court you have yet to experience for yourself first hand as it is hard to be believed  what we are saying except to say we have paperwork to prove all of it is true. The same paperwork ,that you can go to prison for showing unless you use the Clayton v Clayton ruling which Jack Straw wants to reverse.

Another thing is this,the  recent figures in the Timesonline are showing us  more women are http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/politics/lawandorder/6608541/Judge-orders-boy-to-live-with-father-against-his-wishes.htmllosing custody of children to fathers even forcing children to go live with dad against the child’s wishes and feelings we also believe the figures are being doctored for court as we have asked how many children are adopted using the Children Act 1989 in domestic violence cases for a fast adoption or a reversal of custody .

Watch out as there is a possibility of yet  another case about to blow, with an eminent doctor ,”Dr Sturge threatening to reverse the residency to the father (“what again.”)

I have advised the mother to take the power away from the expert using threats ……and send the child to the father rather than face more problems with re-programming at a certain private care home of another so called expert. This is not going to happen the child continues to resist contact.

http://newfathers4justice.blogspot.com/2009/12/peter-andre-gutted-after-jordan-wins.htmlhttp://business.timesonline.co.uk/tol/business/law/article3850658.ece

My friend Tom asked me have you thought of writing to the Queen? I said yes I have done that and just about every MP that you could think of. We are all sick of writing we want justice and a right to a fair trial . These secret courts have to be opened up before you end up writing to me or asking me for help after you have paid out more than you can possibly afford to pay out in legal costs.

Here are a pick of the crop,of  fob off letters from some of the most important people in the UK that we are suppose to respect and serve.

I can now see why people returned their OBE or MBE to the Queen.

I have pulled this from Family Law Week Blog  9 March 2009 post.

I would just like to add something to this, as a domestic violence victim I was to go on to lose custody of my child because of the attitude to a police forensic Psychiatrist called Dr Wilkins& social workers who said “they did not believe me “.

I shudder to think  what kind of  toolkit he used to assess these  facts, or if it was a case of my face did not fit he took and instant dislike to me when I walked in the room .I can tell you this Dr W never looked at the CRB check of the father, if he did he could have done a proper profile, instead of a complete attack upon my character.

My crime was saying that there were DV issues the root core for the relationship breaking down.My advice is this tread carefully when you say DV this is what we have been telling women for years stay or go talk or keep quiet you can not win in closed court. The reason you can not win is simple the guidelines that this lot here at the Domestic Violence conference with you guess it Dr Claire Sturge & Co …….

http://flwblog.lawweek.co.uk/search/label/domestic violence

October post Family Law Week  Blog post …

Do you ever wonder how these professionals collect the data ? where does it all come from? This man is writing a paper on DV what qualifies him to do this and why does he think he has a right to be avoiding serious issues of  avoiding facts women who have lost custody in closed court of their children to violent men.

Taken from a post Family Law Week Blog:It was a thought provoking day in Brentford. I seem to be doing a run of fact finding hearings and I greatly enjoyed the CPD seminar on the subject given last night by my colleague in Chambers, George Butler. The text of the seminar will be posted on the 4 Brick Court website soon. One of the matters which caused the Judge disappointment was the state of the so-called Scott schedules. It was a private law case with allegations of domestice violence. The documents which had been prepared by each party simply set out a list of allegations made by the Applicant in one table with a separate table prepared for the Respondent setting out the responses.

A Scott Schedule is so-called after a Mr Scott, a surveyor, who invented the tool for use in litigation. It is most often used in the Technology & Construction court. It has no set structure in civil litigation as it will depend on the case and the nature of the allegations as to what information will assist the court. This is what the Technology & Construction Court guidance says:

I am wondering what cowboys  they have coming  in using this toolkit? I say this simply because of the chaos caused to families in closed courts with the fact finding part of the court cases?

“This seriously needs to be checked out by police records & facts,and  not open to interpretation of some un -trained chimp working for social services” or at worst a Misogynist psych like Dr Wilkins who will write a report about Miss P and claim thousands of £££”s for his reports for court. Please check out the GMC website for details of his warning for writing reports on this women he had never met .

These social workers, what training do they have to say whether it is a problem of domestic violence  or not ,they are quick enough though to use DV and the Children Act 1989 when it suits quoting the failure to protect issue ?What tool kit is used then when it is dismissed for DV in another similar case?

The government recently brought into force the provisions of the Children & Adoption Act 2006 which includes the power to make contact activity directions including by sending violent fathers (or mothers) on perpetrators programmes. The provision is geographically patchy – supporting this new legislation and initiative would be one way of working towards reducing violence against women. If men can be helped to eliminate their violent or abusive behaviour they would not pose a risk to the mother of their children or subsequent partners, and the chances of their children repeating their patterns of behaviour would be reduced. Support for women is better but often clients I meed need psychological services not available on the NHS (or not available in a reasonable timeframe). If women can be helped through counselling or psychological services to become less vulnerable to abusive relationships, to make better partner choices they will be less likely to lurch from frying pan to refuge to fire. Not everyone is a candidate for change, but where it works it would be far more effecitve than putting a name on a register.

Here is what I have to say about the court experience& threat therapy  .

I was clearly not punished for becoming detached from my ex-partner in 1999 this was the appropriate thing to do to protect our son from emotional harm.Then later on in a public case in 2004- 2005, I was punished for not giving contact on a regular basis because he was not in the country or ill in 2004 the threshold was met for emotional harm!

Fact is his history or CRB check was completely wipe out! There was important to note no  behaviour modification therapy on record either. C was just fast tracked without a proper parent assessment being done. There  was never any mentioned of him undergoing Psych tests for assessments which I was required to do. Getting custody was made far too easy for him and other men like in Poppies case in the media recently.The other sibling a boy was given to the father, if it was not for this contact case the daughter would still be living with her parents.

I can also relate the can not meet the psychological service NHS at there is none there . The NHS can not pay for junk counselling for junk theories the tax payer can ill afford the thousands of ££’s fees of the experts for court. there is no end to this gravy train at all.

The positives now are that we have a lot of http://flwblog.lawweek.co.uk/search/label/domestic violencesupport online for women now coming through the courts,  even after the traumatic time they have endured post  court hearing.

This is really coming together now as we have a lot of contacts and a lot of information how to warn women about giving evidence.These women make very poor witnesses for court and barristers know this too.

With the Clayton v Clayton  rule we compare the reports of 1 mothers case to that of another case.It is frightening reading the risks they are willing to take with children’s lives.The reports reveal confidential detailed accounts of assessments to  show the reports in which expert says it is fine for a child to live with a violent parent or abusive parent ……

The risks are all becoming all to real and parents can related to DV cases also twin tracking other innocent children who have different fathers to fast track adoption cases.

The recent case in the media is nothing new , just another naive mum thought she had a voice, or a right to be heard.  This mother fell but got up very quickly and fled the country to save her next child being stolen for adoption targets. The mother who also fell like many before her  into the category of being labelled bay an expert witness for being mentally unstable whilst her ex – got everything he wanted in terms of custody…… .