Lynda Mac

The talk of emotional harm being used to remove a child is what these experts use when they can find nothing else on you for child abuse /neglect.The word “SIGNIFICANT “is later attached to the fact findings in the reports the experts write for court.Many  of the mothers I know have lost custody for there is no criteria for the  threshold concerning emotional harm.My point is this I hope you get this in 1 the courts can use this in any way they want to.So basically you can lose your child for saying harsh words or shouting at your child. Steps are being taken to stop social workers and experts using this in the future.All they have to tell the judge is any number of things to remove on futuristic emotional harm allegations.

When Addenbrrookes hospital used emotional harm allegations for me , someone said we did not intend for this outcome. I did get told do not worry I will speak up for you in court. All I can say is this , the person who said this knows what she done when she got there. She done what she was told to do.

I gave Caffcass a visit yesterday here is an open letter with the names deleted for purposes of confidentiality.As Dr Lynne Wrennall et al: she  said in a You Tube video the Auzzies have a saying “AT LEAST KEEP THE BASTARDS HONEST”.

27^th May 2009 Linda McDermott

Open Letter to Caffcass

Dear Susan,

I would like to know if, Caffcass still hold a private law case file which started 1999 ,concerning a contact order, for ….aka ….Please can you tell me is this still available to view or have copies of the file .I would like to know if you know how clear your policy is now concerning fraud matters and what is required of you ?

Brief Summary

This case started in the Family courts concerning and itinerant worker who was fond of the drink and had a criminal record 4 pages long concerning using violence, seeking contact to a child.

The reason I ask this is for a police matter concerning criminal proceedings and perjury of evidence put before the court in February 1-8^th February2005 whereby Mr …gained custody for a seriously ill child who had leukaemia.

I have contacted the fraud department of DPW for disability benefits. And I am now waiting for them to contact me, to give a statement of facts about property & land in Spain mentioned.

Please see exhibit 1 a letter dated 16^th February 2006 .The matter has been confirmed for me in a letter received on 16^th February 2006 however it was also used earlier with just the dates from and the benefit was still being claimed. Later on in cross examining Mr …. he said he worked, the CSA said he was not working this needs to be clarified now for a serious case review or future public Inquiry concerning the future welfare of this child.

A lot more evidence was perjured to gain custody of the child. None of this evidence was ever checked out, no proper parent assessments were done, and we have all seen the nurse’s notes concerning the standard of care for the child. On occasions he never got his medication.

I will need to be of assistance to you now as you have said you have not got a copy of the 2004-2005 case file. The CSA letter is clear that Mr ….. was in long term receipt of benefits for as long as he was liable to pay child support for his child who was born 00/00/00 .In oral evidence both parties Mr & Mrs ….are clearly stating that Mr … had no more problems with drink related epilepsy. The data supplied from the DWP & CSA will be in complete contradiction as he never came off the benefit or told the DWP of changes regarding his health.

The onus is on Caffcass as they were paid by the hour to legally represent this child & his interests.

Maybe you could contact Dale Wood or Mr Perusko and see if they can give you some free legal advise concerning maladministration of evidence put before the court.

As you can see there is unfinished business, crossing over to criminal court for telling so many lies in court.

It is a shame that Caffcass did not investigate this matter as a complaint years ago.

Thank you for your assistance in this matter.

Yours sincerely

Linda McDermott

cc

Fraud department of DWP recovery team

LAC Team 3 Pamela Marsh social services

MP Kelvin Hopkins

Media

Names & DOB have been removed for identity purposes this is an edited version of original copy.

 

 

So forget about the logic now, as these professionals did very little for my son or his welfare ,or his future well being.

Even though the SS   were swarming all over us back then  these professionals had so much access to data kept on us, but were more concerned with the lazy way out which was a witch-hunt for me they took an instant dislike to me even going so far as to personalize the case.

This case  should have been policed from the start, to finish . I would have been better off  with a criminal team for a legal defense,I will  come back to this .Let’s see what kind of mood I am in with these doctors in Addenbrooke’s hospital. I am waiting for the doctors to recover from selective memory .  At least in open court you get scrutiny a panel of experts in there  along with evidence, proper witness statements  and hard facts such as  pathology. You get no conviction here you get to walk away albeit without  your child. Guilty or not you walk. This is the part I do not like at all. To think abusers can breeze right through the family courts.Moving on to another family they can  slip right in there ,and repeat the abuse all over again.

What kind of message is this ? Closed Court is a Kangeroo Court. 

Back to the perjury in February 2005 Final hearing. Watch out for Judge Mac Gregor .

I did not realize just how far though my ex-partner would go in an effort to get custody . It transpires  5 years later on as I requested to see when the claim ceased he was claiming benefit ,whilst in court he was letting his mouth run away with talk of working in Spain also buying land  emigrating ………  

 

This also would explain why he has not put in a claim for CSA from me to pay for our son.Even though I have gone bankrupt since due to the case  a parent has a moral duty of care for a child whether they have contact or not is not the issue.

So beware of lying in closed court as social workers will have to work with fraud departments concerning DWP fraud investigations especially when they have penned so many contact sheets and logged so many of your phone calls.

Watch OUT it  can start in the Family Division and end up in the Criminal Courts.

LAW LIARS !!!!! We are coming to get you

S

This is just  another common problem we families have to face long term . Orginally this problem was set up to create money by solicitors and courts.For many families now, this will be a practical long term problem with a hand over of a true account of who your family really are. For whatever reason has been put before a lost child ,who also has a right to find answers about the details surrounding issues of removal .

This in it’s self is enough  of a legacy if it could be called this for the child to be able to get the true picture .If the paperwork is in good order for the child to understand then they will be well able  to sue the state for also depriving them of a good lifestyle they were used to prior to being taken care of by the corporate parent.

What if in the meantime the child has been included in a will by a distant relative ? .The whole family, is not “all “said to be a dead loss or a burden on the state .In the future what is going to happen to this child/adult regarding the contact to a lost family  ,or the un- claimed money which a none resident parent wishes to leave for a child ?

The other problem state looked after children who have been warehoused in foster care for many years may face is this. These children will have been brainwashed already about the facts,   possibly lied to even by their own  social workers.

 

Even though the families live with this fact . There is no proof either way under Data of Protection Act that  this data has been  removed . The Local Authority & Caffcass have shown that  they are very flexible when they break the law of Data of Protection Act by taking  a cavalier attitude to destroying  certain files held on families .

In serious cases of maladministration expect to find nothing there kept on your family or the events running up to court proeceedings.Not even when in serious case reviews it has been addressed at a later date post court or trial  by the local authority .Some of the case files which are penned by an untrained person not even a social worker. By which time the child/adult will certainly be put off from  looking any further for their biological families.

Another fact is that some children  have been wrongfully removed , their families tell me they have got memory boxes for them  You may say “what a bizzare thing to do ” to do this  for someone  who is missing or lost long term.

 

We have all seen the tv programme WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE .The problems with being able to find families as famous people re trace their past .

For many of us now this is going to be a massive issue of trust ..On face value these courts would have you believe the families are poor ,drug addicts mentally ill you name it . Imagine the shock to find you have been left a legacy by someone from your  so called un-fit family. I personally would be delighted to be left an i-pod filled with music ,photographs, short videos ,and most important contact details of surviving family members. 

Ideally a chronology of your life before social services and courts stepped in to claim benefits to look after you in care.Then to be able to fill in the blanks later on would be a bonus too .

I read a book by Isabel Allende many years ago ,it was for her daughter who lay in a coma.As a mother she did not want her  daughter to miss a moment whilst she lay in a deep sleep. Maybe this is where I got my inspiration , I know I got an invite to multiply and never looked back. I have just read that  oldest blogger has died .Her grandson for her birthday signed her up : Amis95blogspot.com so it seems we all have a family somewhere and want to have a say about our unique experience  life has thrown at us. Sadly my Spanish is not that good . I will have to get it translated as I am interested in seeing what the grandmother posted.

I just happened to hold onto the Autumn 2007 Focus magazine from Leukamia CARE for a good reason  . This word “care” also” legacy”  is meant to create a message  or show insight,  or even hints at having a vision for a commercial  charity  ,which will be likely to be of help or support”  for all” people in society.Please note that social workers, also the  MP’s and the charities   they all” use it “to ask for your help & support .Well let me tell you there is” no such support network available to discuss” adopted children or children in care”. The request for donations from Leukaemia CARE  to leave to “a legacy to provide vital care and  support  ,kind of upsets me “.

Moving on to the chief medical officer  now ok I am justified in wanting to have a rant , I am also disgusted with Liam Donaldson as he took so “long” to reply. Then notice the “swerve ”  that most MP’s take when they do not have the facts to be able to give an answer to a question. As some professional families we have met ,who  have also  lost their children in the closed family courts . These professionals have lost their children and  still  work within the NHS system . They have told us they have looked up the child’s medical health number on the system, to see where they were living post final hearing and after closed adoption cases .They have also looked for more families  when their children have been legally kidnapped by the state.

They looked into the NHS & National data bases and could not find their child in the UK. They were gone ,probably abroad to adoption.We are now saying that a global data- base should be set up , to fly in  stem cell donations or organ donations for adopted children,who are  either lost in care, or adopted.

The corporate parent will not raise this question of a right to find a genetic key for a “LOOKED AFTER CHILD”.  The child’s appointed court official the “Legal Guardian does not include this fact in his ,or her final report for the court . There is also no place on the welfare check list either,for  is request to be left as a legal right ,this needs to be included in  the” child’s best interests, a right to find a true gentic key”.

So  there you have it ,this is the reality of being a state looked after child who is simply warehoused in the care system,or shipped out abroad to foreign adoption . These are the facts and risks that the  Government let the courts make decisions  with children’s lives ,not to mention removing their legal right to find a true genetic key if they become critically ill . It does not exist in law right now . It is not open for discussion either. Mr Donaldson says , you can contact a GP.

This will probably be the only time families are going to think about what about a stem cell donor ?This is when at a time when families  will have to deal with somebody in their family who are acutely ill. Please do not wait until you find  out the facts, that you are today the number 1 in  3 who have been diagnosed unfortunately with cancer.

The next likely recipient is the parent or half sibling for someone who has been diagnosed with  leukaemia. When you are in the final hearing stage , make sure you get this in your position statements.Say what you want for the future of your child or children.If it is a wish to leave a true genetic key” GET IT IN THERE NOW!”

WHAT BETTER LEGACY COULD YOU LEAVE WHEN BEING PARTED FROM YOUR CHILD?

Nobody is saying that all these public care cases are not justified, children do need to be adopted and looked after when there is good reason and a solid reason to remove the child and place them in a safe environment. The  other families who say otherwise about miscarriages of justice with closed courts, are also saying “what about improving the rights of the adopted children, and improving the  system to help save lives for people in the future who will sadly go on to be that 1- 3 statistic “?

It goes with out saying we have lost all confidence in our MP’s who say they work for us.You only have to look at what they have done with your taxpayers money recently claiming their expenses .What do you think they will do to your family in a Secret or private court for money? Ask how much revenue goes into the courts making money and paying professionals to step in and represent the legal right of the next child who is in care and can not find a donor.

Listen to us the families who have been through the system ,we  say  they will destroy your family, albeit  an adopted family  and the future of your children.The courts remain closed for many reasons this is 1 of them .  The fact it has closed a door on finding a genetic key .

Another fact the  adopted children can not access the family held  medical records quickly , why accept Laim Donaldson’s reply ,cancer moves a hell of a lot quicker than an MP or the adoption Agencies will move to help or support families in crisis  such as this.They will be able to help your family access the data.Please  believe me, I have been there and seen my own child  when he was diagnosed with ALL Tcell leukaemia these patients are acutely ill and courts will not budge to reveal the facts or contact families who are lost.

Everytime I either contact the leukaemia care charity  or an MP and try to discuss adopted children I seem to hit a stone wall.The MP’s and the charities do not seem ready to discuss this controversial subject ,which is shrouded in secrecy of the word adoption . Or is this  far too sensitive  a subject for them to be able to deal with ?  personally  I feel they can not grasp what this group of people in society will have to face or they have buried their heads in the sand.Or simply do not CARE AT ALL .

Given their own  facts ! 1 out of 3 people are diagnosed with cancer. The difficulties foster families, or adopted children & parents,are going to  face when  looking for help, in finding a donor is  a daunting task.

Maybe it is me, they do not want to be seen listening to, as I am an ex-service user who has far too much to “say” about what she has “seen” first hand, happen in closed courts.

Probate let us talk about probate next time . Leaving something for a child . Are the courts going to stop parents & Children finding & claiming an inheritance?

How do you begin to trust a solicitor again ?

Sir Richard Branson gets it  the problem of stem cell donors please take a look at the link .On the one hand you have got courts leaving the problem to someone else to sort out. Please remember why the courts stepped in, it was to protect and to look after every aspect of this child’s future and it’s well being.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/insideout/southeast/series11/week5_stem_cells.shtml

Begin forwarded message:

From: <Ruth.WILSON@dcsf.gsi.gov.uk>

Date: 19 December 2007 13:52:20 GMT

To: <linda.mcdermot@ntlworld.com>

Subject: Organ donor and adoption

Dear Ms McDermott

As you will be aware your email of 4 September to Mr Donaldson, the Chief Medical Officer, has been passed to this Department for a response.  I am very sorry for the long delay in replying to you.

When children are placed for adoption, adoption agencies are required to collect comprehensive medical information about the health of the child, their birth parents and siblings to ensure a full health history is available for them. This information will be sought from birth parents and through their health records.  Sadly however there are times when a serious illness strikes which could not have been foreseen.

Sometimes a birth relative or adopted adult approaches an adoption agency because they want to inform the relative separated through adoption about serious hereditary illnesses, or when a transplant is need. In such cases, it is important for adoption agencies to establish whether the person just wants to pass on this medical information or whether they are also seeking contact with the relative.

If the concern is solely to pass on medical information, there is provision for this through the National Health Service Central Register (NHSCR). The NHSCR provides a service to facilitate information being passed on in circumstances where there is a stated medical/health need.  Contact can only be made between the birth relative’s and adopted person’s general practitioners (GPs) or other doctors e.g. consultants.  For further details about this service, the NHSCR Adoption Section should be contacted:

NHS Adoption section

PO Box 106

Southport

PR8 2WA

Although a birth relative or adopted adult can contact the NHSCR directly, it may be helpful for both parties if the adoption agency is involved.  The adoption counsellor may be able to include a letter with the medical information being sent by the NHSCR, making themselves available to both the GP and the relative, should either wish to discuss any issues arising from the information.

There may of course be situations where the adoption agency is in touch with the adoptive family or birth family and, therefore, they would be best placed to pass on any significant medical information rather than involving the NHSCR.

If the adopted person or relative cannot be found it is possible that he or she may have died and the NHS registry is the best means of making an up to date check on this. This route will not provide a current location for an adopted person/birth relative but will confirm that the records have been located and the adopted person/birth relative is registered with a GP, that there is no record of a current registration with a GP, or that the adopted person has died.  In the latter case a link is provided to the registration of the death and this information can facilitate appropriate work with the relative.

Yours sincerely

Mrs R Wilson

Department for Children, Schools and Families

Children in Care Division

Adoption Team

Lynda McDermott

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04/09/2007 11:05           Subject: Organ Donor

http://www.adonorforgraham.com/

Dear Mr Donaldson,

I am campaigning for children in care or who sadly have been in a

closed adoption. The reason that I have become involved is firstly my

son developed leukaemia in 2004. My son was made a ward of court  and

our lives were destroyed by the outcome. We no longer get to see my

son I did have one and a half hours in a run down contact centre in

the Luton area however thought this to be more harmful to him long term.

Moving on I saw a news paper article and it was a gentleman asking to

find his adoptive family in Luton. If you wish  can send you the

article then I have read about a group of people in America who since

the 1990′s have been fighting for children’s rights to open up their

cases to help them find a stem cell donor for a match .

What I am asking from you is that you raise this question in

Parliament on behalf of children who are lost in the care

system ,that if in the future they need to find a relative,that they

can do so. As the law stands at present there is nothing in law

available protecting these issues surrounding private family law.

I want these children to be able should they need to do so be able to

contact a data base and search for a donor ,At least then this will

give them and even chance of finding a donor . I am appalled at the

present at the current situation for such children ,and also  the

global search of Graham Barnell in Australia who is a British Citizen

them to have a good chance of fighting this disease leukeamia or any

other life threatening disease that may affect them .

I want the courts and Parliament to make changes in the law and give

children these rights automatically at a time when in court and

removing the children from birth parents make it mandatory that they

leave genetic  information stored on a data- base for their child’s

future .

All these so called expert witness’s training doctors at £180 per

hour to give evidence and who monopolize the system causing chaos

throughout families lives in the UK should have come up with this

idea years ago . By doing something like this in the future that will

drag us up to speed and out of the dark ages or dishing out draconian

and barbaric system that is operating in the secret family courts in

London and up and down the country.

I have experienced first hand the corruption of the system and lost

my child he is living with leukaemia and he  will not be able to find

a stem cell from my side of the family simply because of the lies

that have been wrote about us. If you read the files you would

believe of us that we are all dead . This is not so there is an

extended family in the north of England . This is a fact and based on

the true account of the miscarriage of justice that we were left to

deal with. I would appreciate some support for such an important

matter , and that of the real rights of a child to survive the

British Draconian Courts  open the Closed Courts and through out the

Meddow clones whilst you are in the process of making laws that

affect FAMILY life.  In my sons memory you could call it C’s Law.

Yours sincerely

Linda McDermott

64 Bunting Road

Luton

Bedfordshire

www.adonorforgraham.com

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There is talk on the internet about the bond which the courts can use,also  the state can claim on behalf of looking after the child’s best interests.Pete asked me where I thought the money was coming from for court cases?I said legal aid ,tax-payers money . When the un-married mother registers the child ,the birth certificate creates  a loan which the state can claim ,to look after the child.

Many people asked why the state can not provide funding for support for the children to stay with families. Surely this would not cost nearly half as much as expenses  for a trial lasting 42 weeks and the costs of foster care . This is how long the social services have to find something on you  42 weeks why does it take so long and cost so much money . It is very expensive process and a painful one for the families, I was hoodwinked into working with them in blind faith .So when  social services and a doctor  asked me to go by taxi to Addenbrookes to have a mental health check I said yes,otherwise I was not getting my child back by any other means I had to prove there was nothing wrong with me.

The taxi cost taxpayers £300  round trip. Whilst  I was waiting in the same room before being called into court , I observed how the social worker tried to coax a young mother into cleaning up her flat. I was sitting 2 chairs away when she said this.If this is all the help she needed then surely there must have been another way around this expense and trauma of being parted from your child.

I interjected and said something to the woman purely because the social worker was not connecting with her at all .She must have had education difficulties as she listened to me say.Is that all it is , clean your windows of you flat and also clear up some pigeon crap of the verandah ?Then I said “when we were in Egypt on holiday the people are so poor ,that they had no windows at all”I explained that the people only had a gap in the wall which was in place for a window.

 The similarities with  her case and my own I bet the similarities to be found are :there are no appropriate support networks to be found. And if there is then there is no money for support .We all note there is ample money  for expenses to keep experts in jobs and solicitors in fat cat fees for many years to come.

In my case the sheer greed of the experts the cost of the fees £1.300 for 1 report another mother quoted £28,000 for 7 reports for court.They need to do so many sessions. then when this money runs out you have to pay them for private. There was 1 doctor who rented out rooms by the hour. He worked for the NHS and in private. I would not pay him for 2 years in private therapy,£100 an hour and a consultation fee of £250  so I lost my case as I had had enough of playing the legal game. So many other parents can not pay a mortgage hold down a job and keep up this for over 42 weeks you will have nothing left to bring your children home to.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I  recently added  Mark Godbey  who is a friend on facebook , we both twitter ,he posted on twitter  something about  the stigma of being a non custodial mother,there are so many of us now posting and linking up with other mothers http://familycourtvalues.blogspot.com/2009/05/child-custody-case-to-study.htmlwho are also living( if you could call it this), without out custody of their children. “Well tell me about it “how easy is it to lose your child in a Kangeroo court these days ?It is a piece of cake for the lawyers & doctors who remove your children loads of people on facebook now tell their individual stories of how the were stitched up in private court. Globally we mums meet up to talk and share stories and try and give each other support.

 

I was labelled “unfit “to care for my son in February 2005 final hearing, people would laugh if they heard I was also done for  neglect ,it is so far from the truth. I would never neglect myself or my children.The space on my desk area is a bit of a concern I have to admit ,however it is chaotic also a full time occupation  with keeping up with the amount of paperwork concerned with a case and campaigning for children’s rights.My standards have had to drop slightly when it comes to housework as this takes a back seat now,to social networking with other mothers & fathers .It is vital for families to be able to link up no matter where they are  living ,if they are to survive the closed court after math of losing their cases.

Coming back to the events leading up to and EPO being taken out in May 2004.

Ironically the reason I got into all this mess is for complaining about my sons care in Addenbrookes hospital they were far too busy to help me get him washed and dressed .The child had leads attached to his arms which meant I could not get his  football top off him he had worn for 3 days. I had asked for help for 3 days,after this time  I had finally run out of patience when the nurse said she was busy.I was willing to cut it off, my son was fond of the top  it was a number 10 Michael Owen Liverpool top so this was a good enough reason for me not to hack away and upset him anymore than he was upset at having to stay for 1 month or more in hospital.I know there are staff shortages and this is not reflective of all hard working staff in hospital .This standard of care issue was a concern for me to see my child not kept to a standard of cleanliness he was used to at home.

There were issues with laundry ,not enough blankets and clean towels on the ward. At the weekend a Mc Donald’s meal was sent in for the children. The chef was not on the ward.Then the ward cleaner someone brought to the attention his shoes were caked in mud  as he entered the children’s ward.So worried about hand washing and the cleaner looked like he came straight in from a rave the night before.

So this was my crime for complaining about my sons care in hospital ,which lead me to the Family Division  First Avenue House .This is a private court, Judge Mac Gregor said “you in your life time will never be able to look after your son again”.I walked out whilst she was summing up Judge Mac Gregor  got my date of birth wrong she was on a roll so I let her get on with it.A few months later something went wrong with the hand over to a different carer and an incident with medication my son never got his antibiotics when he was neutrapenic .This time it was not neglect . It was as the expert said a hiccup!!!

 We have all seen the programmes on tv when the under cover journalist go inside and expose the hospitals .Maybe I should have used a video camera when I was staying in there to expose 3 staff looking after 17 children on ward C2 ,the reality was I had no experience of media or time to complain I had my son to think of I noticed they have a lot of money for research and none for bank staff at weekends.Some other parent warned me do not leave him at weekends as they will not get the care he needs.It could not be helped I got ill and needed a break .I had a chest infection.Some parents were exhausted and rushed to A&E themselves whilst their children were on the ward.

We never got home from holiday in Gran Canaria.My son presented with breathing difficulties after we landed in Luton 26th April 2004 ,later he was diagnosed with ALL t cell leukaemia at the L & D hospital .

The stigma of now living with the neglect , in the early days I was broken, someone said I even shrunk in height,it was clear to everyone I was in bits. I have always been one to look after myself, and keep the house clean no matter what. When your world is destroyed and your child taken away from you it is so hard to continue to live a normal life, getting up is the hardest part , keeping up normality looking after yourself. The going through the front door is the next biggest block to get through.

If you have a penal attachment and an ex-partner who will have you arrested for by chance bumping into you when you still live in the same town or village . Certain times in the day can  can cause a lot of anxiety or even PTSD to a parent who has lost custody .

What do you say to your child. I have a gagging order I can not tell you why I am not able to look after you or why the courts say I am probably going to be a threat to you ? 

The  normal families school times are 08;54 am – 3:30 pm . So you find yourself avoiding these times of  going out to Tescos or shops.I have bumped into my child after coming out of a class  just after this time on his way home with his grandmother walking back to her house.A little blue jumper come bobbing along the pavement towards me on day after computer class.What do you say ,you can not say the truth or you risk going  to prison,you do not want to upset your child who is having 3 years maintenance for ALL,so to avoid these by chance meetings.I will go online to do my shopping or go out late at night .

 Strange thing was I used to still do a big shop when I finally got the nerve to go out ,I would not realize what I was doing , goods stacked up to £100 at the till each week.Then they ask you do you collect free school vouchers ? This is a killer when you are first missing your child.I said no ,now I say yes and post them to the school,this interferes in every aspect of my life.Back then  most of the food it sat in the freezer, or cupboards or ended up in the bin.

The diet I  was on  back then was wine  I drank far too much than was recommended & ready meals could not be bothered to cook for 1,my appetite was poor,I either sat in on my own watching holiday videos  or went to the gym until it closed. I remember mostly just  crying till I fell asleep, getting up in the morning getting dressed putting on mascara and crying whilst doing this If it was a really bad day then  going back to bed again not being able to face the day.

I then turned a corner I found Fassit forum,after the Daily Mail “lose your children for being thick ” here I  found lots of parents on  the boards also social workers feeding off  their misery .A lot of professionals contacted us it was 2 way.

 The day the forum went live about 300 e-mails came in it was crazy glitch  .A mother asked me tell me more about “DR CLAIRE STURGE et al”?she had her .Then talk of  other experts names come up too. This is how we started, now we research just how many mothers lost their children to this emotional harm allegation.Where they have gone to live and most important of all what has happened to our children we do not see anymore.It is now 5 years in on this scandal of children missing on this Child Protection futuristic psycho -babble of protecting them from  futuristic emotional harm,they do not have to find this just saying this is enough to remove a child for ever. 

We all know the psychological profile of the carers that these children have been placed with long term ,we have also made available the evidence to verify who they are the past they have had to other  decent professionals who care and are also saying what we say the system is flawed.

The risks have been significantly raised for the children would be the most appropriate term to describe the situation,however it is an understatement .This clearly is not a case of protecting children , but one of exposing them to more harm. Some people are saying it is an experiment in” trauma”,removing the child from the mother. 

Moving on now to the politics of being not able to vote in the normal way other families do ,  .This has changed as well, how I have to post a vote on the 4/06/2009 in my local bye election.I do not think I can be bothered now.

The MP’s well do you think they bother about the stigma of unfit non custodial mothers? 

Will they still be willing to work for us as their constituents unfit mothers ?

I have had to set up a postal vote in the past ,just  incase the school unfortunately has been the same school my child attends ,and is also the designated school, selected to be used as a ballot station.

Meeting up with other mums, I normally meet up with the mother  who was in the Times this week .City bankers ex- wife who also is “not allowed to see her children”. Same template used in her case too as is used in many of these cases.

Life is not so bad after all , it is not all leper leper, some of us mothers meet up for open court sit in on other cases, or go out for a meal or a drink. 

I mean what else is there to do with all the spare time and no need for a babysitter anymore.Life is too short and far to precious to be fighting over who is left holding the baby .

I had a message left from Leukaemia CARE SOCIETY  on my answer machine yesterday the message was “If I can be of any help ” . It has been many years now since I had a care worker come out to me,someone to befriend me in my hour of need and give me support when dealing with a child with leukaemia  .I had a lovely  lady N  who dealt with me,she  was very supportive and genuine.  She moved away out of the area sometime ago ,however she was to give me  vital answers I needed at a time,when I needed all the   support I could get my hands on when dealing with the incompetence of social services.

This was way back in 2004-2005 .She helped me out when I read facts which were sent  out via social services to my solicitor, which were wrong.The facts surrounding a progress report for court on my son  who was on 3 years maintenance  for ALLT cell. A social worker said” he was not responding to treatment”. The out worker looked at the care share folder, and she said rubbish.The social worker is  is lying,” he is alright”,otherwise he would be in hospital.

At the time I had walked away from contact due to the abuse from social workers during contact and frightening my son most of the time .The contact was never certain it was stopped for 3 months in the beginning. This is to allow a child to settle in. Or to stop the child from saying I want to come home with you .

I was surprised as the Leukaemia society have heard of how our case ended up after the final hearing. I have rang up and asked for information about a re- arrangement of a gene also the Philadelphia chromosome which is said to be passed from 1 of the parents to the child,my son has this Philadelphia chromosome .

As later on in February 2005   judge  Mc Gregor  ruled me out of hospital appointments,this was when they placed my son with his current carer. 

There must be no doubt there must be more families like us who are in the same position,lost contact with children.

When I lost my case I sought support from Fassit ,the birth of Fassit is awesome to families like us .There is not a day goes by when I think about what would have happened to me .I will never be able to thank Layton Bevan for setting up support for families like us. Without the forums like Fassit or Mr Bevan I do not think my son would have a mother to come home to. I survived the closed courts ,today  my son has remained in full remission. I have not seen my child since 2006  I am waiting,taking one day at a time,waiting  for him to come home. It is not much to grant a child  cancer victim a wish to live with the parent of his choice or failing this decent contact on a regular basis which is enjoyable.Contact away from the druggies and alcoholics who turn up to visit their children in a contact centre.

I was that choice he got refused this option due to a Kangeroo Trial ,the costs were the time of his childhood he will never get back , and the taxpayers bill for my legal aid were £150K to be “labelled a msbp mother.”

What part of leukaemia is there a link to MSBP or the lighter label of this to justify a removal of a child from his family?

 

Sorry but what help does this gentleman from leukaemia care society  think he can help us with after so much carnage has been done in the last 5 years social workers and courts and Addenbrookes NHS staff intervened ? Still must be a problem with communication and their data-bases.They should know the child does not live here anymore.