Lynda Mac

This is what I found today on facebook : I try to be honest if you are to me i respect you if you do so to me,i will be nice to you.I won’t treat you wrong i’ll treat you the way you wanna be treated,thats all.

These words were updated with a new photo on a Facebook account which is suppose to be my son C.The sad fact is that as an innocent child , little does he know that his legal guardian Dale Wood and his solicitor Patrick Perusko were not that honest with him just how long this would be for , when they told him he had to go an live with his father because his mother had a problem and she could not look after him.
These so called highly paid and highly trained individuals or professionals what ever you want to call it ,were not honest enough to protect his “interests “when their was dereliction of duty of care for him either after the placement and not before the placement.
These so called professionals are quick enough to run with evidence which is not based on fact or proper witness statements for court and it is only a closed court a Kangeroo court anyway. Just so as you now know this fact ,how long this would have to run on all in the Child’s Best Interest’s of course.
None of the information that was put before the court was not based on truth in an honest manner !.

Waiting to get back in again

The father was reported to say in a report penned by a social worker , “that C must never lie to him “is that a fact? How sad to say this to a child, when his father is the biggest liar of all .

So, for many children now left living the kangeroo court lie I feel your shame and your pain when you finally find out that you were mainly conceived on a lie originally ,and what is more important,is this for an adult your father to keep up the lie for all of your childhood until it is finally over.
If I was your father I would not want to explain the paperwork when you come to find out my side of what went on and why I will not allow the courts to use us as a family any longer to keep up the abnormality of being a looked after child.
For 2 clicks I am so tempted to add the pegs from a bundle of lies a foster carer said about inhalers in reports for court and post them here and then send you a message to your facebook account.
The courts feel it is best for you to live a lie,rather than upset all of those highly paid individuals who got paid a lot of taxpayers money ,so for now I will also wait until you are so sick of living other peoples lies ……….

I was delighted to read this news ,I came across Mick Law on Facebook last night .Mick is the chef on ward C2 in Addebrookes he is up for an award , I never met such a lovely man whilst staying in Addenbrookes hospital with my 7 year old son C. C used to like Mick coming around  you name it Mick had it in his kitchen and if he had it you could have it gladly.

This is it folks “everything it says on the tin lid”, what more can I say about Mick he is a lovely guy you could ever meet.

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Mick-Law-Ward-C2-to-win-NOTW-Childrens-Champions-Award-D/226780742472?ref=mfa

The Telegraph , do not even touch base on what the living experience is like for a family and how do they stay healthy in such an awful environment , being detained here in Addenbrookes  hospital is not all it is cracked up to be ,whilst the staff quiet rightly prioritize  getting on with  the important job of looking after children battling with leukeamia the social care side should be supporting families and I mean all families not just selected families.

The whole family should be looked after  and supported properly as a unit .This is not the case at all ,as some people ,parents were  in fact collapsing  from total exhaustion after being on a ward for 4-5 days no sleep or time to wash or eat properly, some of these  parents had  health problems of their own,  and neglected their health whilst looking after the children. No consideration or help was ever offered to families who were struggling on ward C2 I should know as I asked for help when I had a serious chest infection at that time I was ill with pneumonia there were not even enough blankets or bedding on the ward and only 3 staff on a ward for 17 families with seriously ill children.

You will not also  be reading the fact that children were fed McDonalds meals and that there was no chef was on all weekend either .

A hospital social worker sent out a questionaire what can we do to help families like you ?

A video camera  to help do a video diary would be ideal , however you would probably not escape to tell your story with the side of the expereince of how this hospital like any other has it’s problems,that  it needs to address, before it can really expect the general public to believe that it does come up to standards which are acceptable. Watch out for the eject button the social services referral mode,  the other option is easier  for the hospital to take by getting shot of the difficult complaining parent.

I spent thousands  by the time we had been to court and back again ,so now to moan about  it was a struggle to pay for living expenses away from home on the concourse was mostly junk food ,and expensive for a family who  will not be  able to work full time  when stuck in hospital looking after a sick child . The car park is another complaint . It was so expensive to live from day to day this now seems pointless we experienced 10 fold what normal families experienced at being detained at  Addenbrooke pleasure.

After being given a billet : a room in Acorn house you were given 1 shelf to put your food on . The nightmare for most of us was time , you simply did not want to be away from your child’s side for a moment,so spending time away during the day doing labels writing your name on your food items this was after  you dashed into town to buy from Tescos

The reality for most of us was this was a pain in the …..

Another fact was this  communal house dwelling was not all it was cracked up to be either, living sucked for us having to put up with families from all walks of life and then their extended families dropping in it was noisey and over crowded when you needed to sleep or rest there was no place to go for a break  . It was like the whole BIG BROTHER experience with Linda Walker not exactly telling it how it is a home from home it was not!

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/foodanddrink/3345613/

BeeW This is supervised contact  friends visiting Addenbrookes  with  social services Luton LAC 3 team.http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/05/06/hospital_car_park_charges_are.html

I can’t believe it,  the traffic  is now indicating that I must now have an audience of children from Addenbrookes .I Just read the stats for yesterday.

Is he at it again? Has your mother or father been removed from ward C2 and they are putting you in foster care?

What is the reason have they asked to may questions like I did about your treatment  ?

Where your parents also  asked to take part in the put your name in a hat  UK2003 ALL trial for Randomisation ?

Do you really want to know what is the criteria for emotional harm is?

There is none so the courts can remove your children off you for nothing.

If I was a child of 12 0r 13 years old and this was happening to me .I would ask how long can they detain me in hospital against my wishes ?

This is the age that the courts should be listening to you what you want it is called Gillick comp or Frazier .

The  courts use the reason neglect saying your family will not be able to look after you ,this is untrue it costs less to support a family than it does to pay to take you to court for 42 weeks this costs on average £150 K of tax payers money .

I did hear another  foster carer in ITU saying the child she was looking after it was neglect case so many foster carers on the wards in hospitals must tell you something about the system that does not support families living with cancer to stay together.

A few days later she was looking at me in a different light as I was now the brunt of the ward for gossip as I was now getting the 1 shoe fits all treatment. Being done for neglect too.

There is no history of me ever having neglected my son ,however barristers made sure to embroider this word into court statements and make it stick.My crime was to walk the floor with a junior nurse and make complaints about the state my child was in .

I have seen it all now

Who is Mr Smellie doctor at Addenbrookes? Is it Dr Amos Burke?

Leave me your comments on here please.

What ever you do ,do not trust a court  Cafcass Coram appointed guardians they are not to be trusted at all ,they lie about your wishes and feelings. They will tell you that your mother is to sick to come and see you at the same time they will also  say that when you are in hospital,” you never ask to see your mother or father”.

I never had a chance to prepare my child for what happened to us whilst staying in hospital he was only 7 years old children living with cancer have to grow up very quickly indeed . If children are old enough to ask a question and put it in a search engine wanting answers then I am going to tell it like it is.

The medical staff  threaten to call the police or section your parents in Addenbrookes if you make any complaints about the standard of care. There is a Liverpool case too Alder Hey  a mother lost all of her children only complained about the waiting time for a child with a leg injury.

When the social workers tell you you have to go into care for a short time while your parents are under taking medical  training to look after you ,do  not believe them either.

Are the Social Workers  sitting next to your bed with a note pad and pen writing down everything your parents say to you all the other parents know what s going on and all talking about your family having social problems tell Addebrooke’s you will sue them for doing this  to you ?

The money  all goes to  solicitors and expert witnesses who label you parents unfit and you never go home.

Was your parent difficult like I was,and  complained about the staff or the doctor Dr Burke not giving them any information how you are doing and when you are likely to be coming home?

Ask for a transfer to another hospital and see if he lets you go there.

Does Jim the nurse still work there,and does he still talk about other parents making negative remarks about them because the are from another ethnic back ground.

Sorry you are searching for answers to questions or have had enough of life on ward C2  .

If you are staying in Addenbrookes hospital ward C2 we were there in April 2004 . Prior to this in 2003 the hospitals had trouble recruiting children into UK2003 ALL Trials . This is a fact.

I want to know under Freedom of Information Act how many children from ward C2 were put in this UK2003 ALL trial when they got rid of the parents. All this is against your human rights to stop contact while you are seriously ill.

This photo is of my son on holiday a few days before he was diagnosed with T cell ALL , tell me doe she look like he is a child suffering from neglect.

This photo is in the front of Machin’s Solicitors I refused to go to a contact centre and be set up  again . My oldest son was denied seeing his brother today ,no reason is needed to stop your contact. A nursery nurse with experience can suggest to the court to keep your parents locked down in a children’s prison =contact centre and charge your parent £45 an hour to see you there.

Do not trust social services in Addenbrookes hospital or anywhere else they do more damage and harm than was ever suggested a child was at risk from in the first place.

Well as it is getting nearer to a New Year I have to now confess to being a blogger who sometimes more often than not sits in my night wear 05:30 am in the morning with a cup of T & toast and is clicking on a keyboard …..as if I do not start then I would not get time to blog at all what with the case and everything else that is going on  there is never enough hours in the day.

Besides,all the offices are now closed now with Social Services & Courts  it seemed pointless to continue working on the case so I had time out too. Thank you so much to the couple who have invited me out to Spain I will come out soon as I can. I am sure I will be departing post hospital appointment  and post court appearance is out of the way .

I do not know about you I spent Christmas  here on my own,which I have quiet got used to it now .It was  so peaceful and it was short lived with far too many phone calls on Boxing Day.I spent time out thinking about my family and my son who I have not spoken to for 3 years now.

I did not feel like company  either on Boxing Day or Shopping  I tried to get into the swing online and could not be bothered with this either . This is the way life has been  for  me for the last 5 years now living as a single woman and not a single parent.The fact is I have adapted well to the single life at 50 years old. I have got very single minded and selfish in my old age. Plus I am not going to be seen as a nutter arguing over contact in court. I lost end of . I just want to know if I can leave a genetic key for C .

I lost my parents many years ago when I was very young 17 years old my father died  then later  34 years old when my mother died I am an only child however I have a large extended family scattered throughout the UK so I am not without support or family at all.

So  this was the start of all our trips abroad &  travelling to different countries I have mostly been free from a commitment other than living life to the full.

It was never a serious attempt to avoid Christmas with relatives it just happened.And losing the major players like parents seems to have given me forgive me that  release to go on to  do anything at Christmas and with my life  .So I learned very well how to avoid the  other invites, I mean can you think of  a good enough reason for not wanting to be at home for Christmas?

The reminder was too painful so I planned a budget and started packing our suitcases well into advance of these awful months ahead . And if anything happened in the meantime I  also had a back up plan if this failed. All of this experience of being alone but , and bringing up children on my own financially,  has stood me in good stead I had no choice but to get on with life. So all the travelling & socializing has greatly  contributed to my survival post Family Courts .

Then the awkwardness of it all, when well meaning friends & family invite you simply because they feel sorry for you or want to fill in the void.

Thanks for all the offers, but it is sometimes better to stay at home if this is what you want to do.

Normally  when we were a family we would travel,just like most families.  I used to observe we were   not alone either as thousands of Brits fly out to Spain ,Cyprus and quickly we would blend in and have fun at the Gala Dinners.  Mostly we would fly out to the Canary Islands  and a typical day would start with having   breakfast and head for the beach.  I do not feel fit to fly out right now but that is still what I would have wanted for Christmas.

So as I now know loads of families online and have met up with some of  them in London  ,this year I extended a warm invitation to those families living apart from loved ones maybe some of us could think about a great escape and go and link up with other families abroad & in Ireland that we have got to know over the years.  A quick video went out on the spur of the moment ,as an open  invitation on Facebook to other families who are living extra ordinary lives living in exile from Social Services & Courts we are here for you just a call away if you need us.

I think others will agree with me now when I say this ,I see no justifiable  reason to marginalize families who have no criminal record for child abuse .The suffering is continuous until they are  find their lost loved ones. These families   have suffered enough by wrongfully removing their children. The more social workers and courts try to destroy these innocent families the more support will go in favour of these families online and in the community and  another fact is this is because Justice has not been seen to be done. Another fact is  this Social Services  would like to make sure families like us are not included in society also that many of these families are exposed to feeling depressed, and left isolated  as they are not in  a group which is considered inclusive  any more socially or worth any real value except to claim lots of funding from a public purse to destroy lives with perjury.

So what really happens to the children at this time of year when  all the social workers have gone home and the solicitors are not on call ?

Who is looking at the children’s best interest now ,well   consider this  there is nobody interested in the children now ,as emergency back up for looked after children or children at risk they will all wait, until they have got the Christmas & New Year Period and massive hangovers are out of the way,and the latest budget is in from Central government arrives.Then no doubt y there will be ACTION!

So the what really happens to all the children in a crisis this time of year or at risk or stuck in hospital,or in care all alone without a phone call home?

Just like my son C was all alone on Christmas Day without a call home…..

I would just  so love to post a letter on here from a social worker  Julie Tadd social worker ,who had warned me not too take my sons temperature whilst in Purple Professionals contact centre in Dunstable or  in contact anywhere esle as they would stop the contact there and then.

Within hours of sending this letter out to me saying I got the reading wrong, my son was admitted with a viral infection to the L&D hospital early hours of 25th December 2005 .

I have found so much evidence in C’s medical notes  like the nurse telling Grace Human the foster carer ,”it is your responsibility to tell the mother when he is in hospital” .

She never did tell me,  so as a result of this on the surface it must of looked to all intent and purpose like  I could not be bothered.  I even missed appointments due to her blanking me out of my sons contact. She allowed me a phone call when I got ill with food poisoning prior to this I had no indirect contact with C. Now I know she had to do this to get him to attach to her and break our loving bond we had as a family.

The oh so friendly Foster Carer  said to the nurse” get her off the ward I am not coming on till she has gone!”Grace Human was livid with me for highlighting my child spiked a temp I was told to take a temperature on contact at times when he was having treatment .

It is serious if children pick up an infection when on chemotherapy. Alison Dowsett sister at Addenbrookes told me that at a lower reading of 37.7 C got into difficulty. I was stuck in that dingy back room on the ground floor with the smelly bathroom in the end of terraced house know as “The Purple Professionals”  I rang the Rabbit ward straight away as the traffic was bad in Dunstable always is at night time. I read out temp reading as I listened  to the doctor he asked where we were ? I said speak to this care worker and get us out of here. Julie the care worker did not have a clue what neutrapenic meant to C or what a viral infection could do either.

I am reading more evidence which was not disclosed to me by my solicitor Liz Oldham  Machins Luton  of a planning meeting they had  17th January 2005 the same FC  advised ,said my son never asked to see me at all……. Imagine if he ever gets to read this ?

The conact worker J was sitting with us in the Halfway House on Christmas eve  having a meal with my youngest  son & oldest son who was put in care on an EPO in May 2004 ,my poor child was trying to eat a meal and his mouth was so sore from the treatment of drugs he was on at that time, also if affected the taste of the food .C  was in the middle of treatment at the time for Leukaemia he could hardly eat a thing.

This was so out of order getting me into thousands of pounds of debt to go to supervised contact in the community in the winter with a special needs child. I was stupid to let them walk all over me when we had a lovely home not 5 minutes drive from the Halfway House Restaurant .Hazel Simmons Labour MP was sitting on a near by table I  know most of the Labour councillors on the Lewsey Farm  Estate where we live .I said hello to her as she dined  with her daughter.

I was made to pay out over £50 for a meal my child was not even able to eat as he was ill when he could have been brought to his own home been comfortable and just had a cuddle and some home made soup or something to eat I was not working at the time so £50 was a lot to spend eating out.

This was to be our last contact goodbye contact we just did not know this at the time behind my back they were working out plenty of contact before the judges decision to give the residency to the father.

The enormous strain he was under at times ,with trying to attend contact and pretend he was well enough for contact even  turning up in a lot of pain with his back I am lost for words to tell you I feel so special that someone would do this for me .

This must tell you how much we loved each other ,I am so blessed to have him for a son and the fact that he is my son and not someone else’s  son is enough for me to keep me going plus all of the happy memories we had of each other give me great comfort throughout these difficult times.

None of any of this matters at all what the courts the ex-partner saying he is not wanting to come to contact after being given a residency order. This will all end one fine day  when the truth comes out.So make sure you are looking after him for another Christmas until he is old enough to have his say.I have resined many years ago that I am not going to see my son in supervised contact and the Local Authority did not stop this contact I did as it was harmful and degrading an experience to have to go through. Plus think what I have saved the taxpayer on fees for costs to the LA …..

Christmas Day is a day I do not like to remember as it was heartless what the foster carer done to C left him on his own in isolation ward without a phone call from his family . She took my son to hospital after dropping him off at the contact centre the previous night and the best all of these so called professionals could do was threaten to stop contact.

His face was high in colour his temp reading was 38 which I was told was dangerous take him straight to hospital .So I was right something was up a mother knows her own child and when they are likely to be ill or coming down with something.

This case is all so academic when it comes down to it none of them would have a case at all if I had not taken my son for medical treatment on time. I saved his life, and that is a fact. My son was seriously ill and I got him back off holiday ,and brought him safely  home to  the UK off holiday which is a damn sight more than could be said for Madeline Mc Cann’s parents and both of them were doctors.

boys enjoying flashing lollypops

Watch this space next , my son wants to know how I am ? well how do you think I am after nearly 5 years of fighting for any kind of decent contact ?

As well as can be expected really,the  same as all the other parents.I am feeling very  tired ,exhausted , financially ruined ,At times I have been very low ,and feeling  broken,  but not ready to go down and stay down  .

This is  also going to be interesting and see how expert the courts are at dealing with the backlash . I am pleased that my son is well and healthy and is happy at school he was shocked like he saw a ghost ,when just by chance he met up by with his older brother who has not seen him since 2006. I saw my son C when he he drove past me towards Dunstable July last year.

This photo was taken on supervised contact  by a social workers assistant ,her eye sight was very poor, so I apologize  you can add the famous do not work with children ,animals an finally wanna be social workers.

Luton Arndale Centre was packed out yesterday , I went down there to buy a birthday present for my son( the son I  never see now since I walked away from the 1 hour in a contact centre) .In the end I settled on  a Bench Top out of JD Sports which I will wrap up and place alongside all the other stuff I have purchased over the years.

I know everyone is different ,and some people are not going to agree with what I am saying here ,but this how I see it. I can now  reflect back on supervised contact and say I am so glad I walked away from it . When we were  at supervised contact in Cambridge Street & Mayne Avenue or Purple Professional Services in Dunstable , it was such a negative experience for both of us and anyone doing research saying  otherwise are lying to you.

This experience is very bad for children and will have done long term damage to them .You only have to see the Angela Wileman’s You tube  video with her son Lucas  it is brutal .I can mention their names as the story is in the Telegraph an she won her case. Otherwise there are no names on this blog except professional people working for the courts who also advertise online or publish their work or papers to do with contact or court issues.

Is  This Kind of Contact Really Good For Children ?

Personally I think this has to be  a very, very stressful situation for  all of the families ,the children and parents  to be in this situation long term I know 1 mother  who is now 5 years down the line, and still stuck there in supervised contact  . I also think that it is unforgivable if not down right cruel of staff to be creating an unsociable situation for children. The staff leave you thinking an create an atmosphere were people are unsure about what to do next when inside these places.

If something as basic as your  child’s basic human rights being breached inside their and they are not allowed to receive a gift from a parent sent in with gifts from other family and friends then that is wrong.

Nobody should be given this authority ,to keep both child and parent  wondering are you allowed to actually give your own child a present this is an abuse of authority. If there is a risk to children then deal with it in a proper manner.  The staff should then offer to purchase the gift and wrap it first after the parent has paid for this.

After all these social workers charge £45 an hour to supervise the contact,it is the least that they   could do which is something positive for the benefit of these children.

People would not believe it unless they actually experience it for themselves. My advice is do not go there, it is harmful to a child, plus think about going  on strike, as this  is an experiment in trauma & attachment. I would start by,removing the option from the courts by walking ,or the other choice is to stay long term in a study and come out the other end wondering who the f..k you really are .

Hard  to know what to say really ,in simple terms this looks like just a clean up operation now for others to sort out the mess left behind  really. This was my first time as  litigant in person an I wish I had gone an done it from the start  instead of carrying  a dead weight of vultures back and forth to court an getting paid to make sure I never got all the paperwork .

Tell you what really interest me though.An this was a surprise to me as I  had previously asked this firm of solicitors to represent me. They said they never done family only  criminal cases. Let me explain I had a bit of an incident with a woman  many years ago , a neighbour dispute which had got out of hand. The neighbour got me arrested as I was rather good at self defense tactics when things deteriorated. We both got off with a caution but she insisted it was something else.

So I find Smith Brown & Sprawson this firm of well known solicitors who were on this case , and yes before you ask I  can recommend them to you if it is criminal , as they come out to the cells within 20 minutes lol. So you are not left waiting that long, an if you wear channel N0 5 Coco  Mademoiselle you can pull your jumper  quickly up over your nose, until he gets there  an not even smell the urine in the cell,you  even can pass on the offer of a McDonalds meal , an  skip the readers digest to read too.

Going back to the  non disclosure of  paperwork problem I had,   to recently deal with from Machins which was  in 2005, I came across  fax.The fax  was to reveal contents  of them discussing me .The fax had the firms DX  number on it , it was sent from Sprawsons. So I double checked I got it right then worked out the rest for myself.At first  I had to look at it again ,thinking what is that. Is it a mistake, no they leave a big fat paper trail an they sweat an make sure you can not get this to go LIP and work your own case .So when the penny finally drops with you  what the game plan is  you will find just how deep this runs ?I only found a DX number of them discussing what expert to go get for me.

Now then what does that say about the out come of your case? Trial by expert witness.

When I tell you the LA   got big gun lawyers for me,my solicitor  set me up too as  they matched it with the experts as well  with eminent Dr Claire Sturge  an Dr Wilkins  the other 1 is not worthy of a mention as he is a pussy operating out of a PO BOX number.

If this does not tell you they are all in on it as  Family  Law solicitors then I do not know what else I can tell you it stinks to the very core  . The firms of solicitors are all in on it, just like a pack of sheep in wolves clothing out for the kill. It goes like this are you finished with that expert when your finished can I have that 1 for this client ? Oh an by the way you know when you represented them give us a clue how will they stand up to ………………..

Well you will  all be  wanting to know what happened yesterday , the GMC  did not have the bundles or so she said  just could not be bothered to read or do it .I pushed my set  to her across the desk as I had read them early hours the night before an beleive there is not a lot to them a list of reports transcripts letters of instruction  my short statement about complaint .The judge wants 1 person in the GMC to make sure that the ID of the child and experts is anon . The name I said was changed over of the child so he does not go by my name as you all know me as Lyndamac . I have kept the ID ANON rules to the book.

I got asked who done this changed the name , again if you read the bundles the previous judge must have done it obviously or some woman they let in for the day as mickey mouse must of  done it. I got told not a problem that he would soon change that back…………………..

Watch this space as they agree now what can be pulled from Kangeroo court as evidence of corruption or what can not be pulled from the archives of Kangeroo court .You just can not win can you ?

This is me in Cyprus for the New Year  celebrations in January 2006 I do not like staying at home as it is to emotional a time to be spent alone so I follow the sun like thousands of other families. The reality is  our family are only just 1 of thousands of families who went in the closed courts and that is a fact an came out broken shattered left on the scrap heap hopeless cases of families who can not be fixed. Well if you believe this then……

I would like to contribute to helping taxpayers avoid picking up the bill for these experts , let us see what the families can do to exposing  setting a fixed rate for these reports . The pay roll for applying for funding for reports for court  needs to be scrutinized as a matter of public interest especially now we are in a recession . As prior to some of these reports there is nothing worthy of red flagging a case .Prior to our case there would not have been a justifiable reason  to warrant an EPO being taken out  for court.

Maybe the multi- Agency should just do what it is supposed to do “Red Flag child abuse” there an then as it happens. Surely you could save a lot of heartache an pain plus save the taxpayers a lot of ££’s .
A team Social Services Team manger asked me years ago how do you cope ?I never answered her, my advice is this do not let them know this either, as it will only help them break you down ,or others who will be following on after your family have been taken to court? I got told after doing a 5 hour session completing the MMP1 test 30 years out of date , “you know the test “the 1 not accepted in the UK by the courts .This was with Graham Flatman  a Psychologist an expert witness for the court “I do not know how you got through all that”he said.

This  mutli-agency pack of professionals who are Coram based solicitors using Coram based contact centres  are making a profit out of warehousing your children in the care system long term.

“LET US LOOK AT HOW YOU ARE BEING USED FOR RESEARCH WHAT PART YOU PLAY IN ALL OF THIS”.

So what can you do about the spin the media tv an newspapers print about  these so called stories of the families that can not  be so called fix ? Is it really true that families like us can not work even though we have been categorized or sent through the same contact centres , why should we be fleeced of all this money during the process of being assessed or be asked to give up work to work with core assessments set up to fail?

“HOW DO SOCIAL WORKERS BRAINWASH THE CHILDREN YOU CAN NOT CARE FOR THIER NEEDS”.

If my reputation is anything to go on and the memories that  my 7 year old who was removed in 2004 ,an is now fast approaching 13 years of age ,this  child has had a positive image when he was of an age to fully understand all of this . If a child has a positive experience of a relationship with a parent an the parent  is  able to care for their child’s needs, why is it necessary for a social worker to destroy the bond in an un-natural setting as a children’s prison? The children have no home visits as it would be hard to keep this pretense up that your parent can not look after you now as the children could see you in your own positive environment.

Some children this what is happening in their care package of being looked after by the state an being brainwashed over a period of time that you need to be looked after .This is a reality a positive  negative  message is being given to a child about a parent who has consistently met their child’s needs an given a good level of care .This stage of contact is vital to relay to the child to look at how utterly useless you are as a carer. Please  also accept to be set up the same way this 1 shoe fits all the child has to become dependent on the foster carer an bond with the FC  to be looked after.

“WHY SHOULD WE BE EXPECTED TO PAY FOR THIS EXPERIENCE AN THEN BE GAGGED AS WELL”.

The next question is this ? Why should families like us be gagged from  about talking about our cases an showing the paperwork from the court bundles.  We are all asking questions now how much money in a recession are you the taxpayer paying to Local Authorities to deal with contact issues for children to be long term supervised.

I am willing to show this paperwork using the Clayton ruling. I have asked my MP Kelvin Hopkins  to find out how much these centres are getting paid to operate in Luton .I was sent an e-mail from a mother showing me a letter stating how much she was required to pay out to visit her child she has also been fighting her case for many years now. Now I am requesting more from parents who have kept a receipt for their contact expenses. My expenses are over £3,000 , that is just for working with Social Services making me run around for court an hospital visits approxiamtely for the 42 week period it takes to destroy your contact. In light of the MP’s expenses coming out I want this to come out parents fighting their custody cases can not work and be in assessments an neither can they  have their businesses or family life disrupted for 42 weeks of the year whilst all of these professionals are coining in as much as £5,000 a report an £75 an hour for legal aid for a solicitor to only  bin your case or tell you he/she is going on holiday at the final hearing stage here are your bundles do it yourself.

You will have to find out then when you fall for the same hype about the true state of the care system an closed courts.
Think about this I would rather save the money in  a trust fund for my child  for his education than waste it sitting in a contact centre left playing with a wooden box. These photos are of me keeping up a routine of going on holiday to Cyprus I went back to the same hotel it gave me peace . I sat an replayed the happier memories of some of the best times of our lives. An the experts did not have a clue where I was or what kind of state I was in. They did not even care if I was dead or alive until it dawned on them they had a problem. The stopped my contact for 3 months whilst C settled in a placement he did not want to be in.I walked away I came of the chess board.

“WHO WILL INVESTIGATE THE FUNDING APPLIED FOR BY THESE EXPERTS AN WHY DO THEY TRAIN EVERYONE ELSE TO GIVE EVIDENCE.”

The expert Dr Claire Sturge looked very unprofessional as she sent out a “LETTER VIA MY SOLICITOR ”  asking where I was why I did not return to contact the day after the 3 months was up,she wrote my son would not last out the year on an emotional level, from a professional  prospective she wanted me to know the harm that this would do to my son not knowing how I am, where I am  he needs to know ! Claire Sturge must have knew the risks involved with a seriously ill child battling with leukaemia, never the less she was willing to recommend no contact then wanted to change the rules for contact .This is nothing but an experiment in trauma- attachment- destroying the loving bond with mothers. Why are so many other mothers wanting to talk to me about their cases involving this highly eminent child psychiatrist?

Follow the Social Worker – the barrister – as they discuss the families an we discuss the professionals. Please get a blog an have your say as the forums will not allow you to have a voice. Next week I will start on Adoption UK forum.I look forward to you joining in about what you have to say about your experience.

Community carespace

http://www.communitycare.co.uk/Articles/2009/11/02/113040/concurrent-planning-birth-parent-contact-can-distress-babies.html

High levels of contact between birth parents and babies in concurrent planning placements should be discouraged due to the stress it causes the babies, finds research by children’s charity Coram.

Concurrent planning reduces disruption for children in care by placing them with foster carers who have been approved to adopt if the child cannot return to its birth parents.

Research for Coram by Jenny Kenrick, a child psychotherapist at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust, found frequent contact with birth parents disrupted babies’ routines.

http://www.communitycare.co.uk/Articles/2009/11/02/113040/concurrent-planning-birth-parent-contact-can-distress-babies.html

Here is the evidence that  the social workers and solicitors an barristers alike are all using the same resources or social networking sites as us families ,and here is what they  have to say about  the same issues concerning contact.These hard faced legals do not bat an eyelid as they stop the contact for a seriously ill child so why would they  deal with anyones else’s case any different .This serious matter cutting out all hope to the child for indirect contact indirect to a birth parent must do serious long term damage to the child. I get mothers contacting me saying it is their birthday an they won’t let me see my child.

Just how much money  are courts making out of this important issue of contact ?. Imagine the low self esteem inflicted upon a child going through this process . Not even as  much  as a phone call when you were seriously ill in hospital on Christmas Day. Imagine  the thought of it is enough to send you cold. Try explaining this to  your sick child, whilst core assessments are underway ,surely this is not asking much a phone call. Months later as things deteriorated with the intervention of social workers I had to pay to send in a teddy bear & balloon from Interflora as my contact was stopped .

Mum sends her love by Interflora how many of you could afford to do this in a recession try an keep up some kind of  normality or conceal a living nightmare as stone faced grey suited para – legals from the  Local Authority  legal department taken over your private family life .They lack empathy with families or show any consideration for what you are going through.Believe me if you find out your child has cancer you will know what I mean when I say this. So when I was struggling to deal with the costs of  hospital visits an contact ,I also  had the added burden of nannying the social worker, or her support worker these people literally  drain  you, even for car park fees they did offer £5 towards early contact  I refused this as it was an insult. I carried on until I had spent almost £3,000 not counting the £150K legal aid bill which was paid by taxpayers. During the court proceedings an post court the contact is still a major issue it is not working my son has no contact today .I have no conviction for child abuse just the same label they use when they have nothing on you . C needs to be protected from futuristic emotional harm.

FACEBOOK CONTACT

The use of Facebook whether to contact a missing child . I made may decision which was to contact social services and the school I informed   them  that any messages sent via the family or whoever put up the profile of my son using his real name on facebook will be a legal matter or a police matter  the father got asked to let him have an advocate so I will wait until he can think what this would mean for C to be able to discuss with someone who is not a social worker what he wants in terms of contact. I have failed to get an advocate for him so he can have his say about contact. I have learned much over the years an it is not to be used by any of the professionals I will wait for my son to find me an deal with contact. My position is this it was unlawful to give so little contact to a child who was ill at that time without a good enough reason and there is nothing outlining a reason to stop me or supervise me either. This has breached my sons human rights. I would not like to be in the Local Authorities position or my ex-partner when they finally have to answer why such draconian measures were taken to destroy contact. for those of you who will write an link up I wish you all the best but before warned . They print it of for court .

http://flwblog.lawweek.co.uk/An interesting article on Community Care about the impact of technology on supervised contact .

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