Monday Morning, and I hit the keys before a cuppa T this morning , this week is going to be very busy for me and for other cases. I have to say Mr White in Suffolk SS looks ill last time I saw him lying on tv about children in care …….  If somebody gets time can you ring or e-mail Julia Brophy et all for the  statistics and send her a link to the ITV interview.Open letter to MP & GMC Caseworker & Luton  legal team Jenny Lennon ,Mr Dean Head master  .

Dear All ,

To all interested parities for court please feel free to include team manager of LAC 3   Pamela Marsh  Julie Tadd and especially Sharon Andrews who I find gave an order to stop contact , please also include & Cafcass  officer retired Dale Wood . Please note I will use this penal warning concerning the breaking down of my contact and the behaviour of the social workers  Yvonne Crawford  who  were so  abusive to my son in Cambridge Street which the action was not called for .I made a decision to stop contact  in a supervised setting. The Supervised contact has no bearing upon me receiving current monthly medical information concerning C this is what I will be dealing with for court . The risks now the child is older should he come out of remission from ALL T cell leukaemia .

When I am finished dealing with the complaints for the GMC and the decision is back in from them I will take this back to court on all contact matters for a right to leave a genetic key  for C . I will give many examples of statements put before the court were  the Local Authority said they would keep me updated about his medical progress and did not do this. Then the father who got custody also did not inform me about any current update of C’s health or progress, instead I am going to highlight how mr M and the Luton Local Authority and also Judge Mac Gregor  covered up when Dr Sturge said it was ONLY  a hiccoup when medication was not given to him. I will want more than an apology from the LA for the stress it has caused me to have a senior social worker Julie Tadd got away  with lying about my son’s medical history  Addenbrookes evidence going over to GMC will indicate change your attitude or we will not work with you !.

Moving on now ,more  evidence with be backed up by a doctors report  Dr Siva Kuma for court stating the child was well and should not be kept way from contact or treated any other way than like any other normal child.

I have leave to now return back to court  on specific issues concerning this issue which is a general public interest matter when dealing with cancer patients the professionals must take care to get the data & facts right.

I trust this paperwork is based on events it is witnessed by professionals and it has been all put before a court and so far this is the ultimate  result  of 1 parent (DNA half is missing ) being marginalized by a trial by expert witness rules  a paper written by Danya Glaser & Clare Sturge on emotional harm . If facts were checked out for court and my ex-partner’s passport details would show he was abroad for many months of the year working as an itinerant worker on the buildings.

I would like to say all of these facts were overlooked  in favour of a perverse reversal of custody to a violent father .

Just to remind you that this  case is being retained to Nasreen Pearce who has come out of retirement to deal with this matter I look forward to seeing you all back in court .

Yours sincerely

Linda McDermott

CHILDREN — Orders with respect to children — Contact order — Child in interim care of local authority and living with foster parents — Order to maintain contact with stepfather and half brother — Guardian not complying with order — Whether contact order enforceable by committal — Whether local authority in contempt of court if order not obeyed — Whether circuit judge needing to assume powers of High Court judge — Whether jurisdiction to attach penal notice to order — Children Act 1989, s 34 — Family Proceedings Rules 1991, r 4.21A (as substituted by Family Proceedings (Amendment) (No 5) Rules, r 88) — CPR, Sch 2, CCR Ord 29, r 1 In re B (Minors) (Contact Order: Enforcement); [2009] WLR (D) 73 CA: Thorpe, Wall and Moore-Bick LJJ: 27 February 2009 A contact order made under s 34 of the Children Act 1989 in the county court was enforceable by committal for contempt of court, and the court had jurisdiction to attach to a penal notice directed to the local authority in whose care the relevant child was. The Court of Appeal so held when allowing an appeal by the local authority against the decision of Judge Nasreen Pearce, sitting in the Luton County Court on 16 and 23 October 2008, to attach to a contact order made in public law proceedings under s 34 of the Children Act 1989 a penal notice addressed to the local authority stating that, if the order were not obeyed, the local authority would be in contempt of court and the officer responsible for the implementation of the order might be sent to prison. The order required that contact be maintained between a child, who was in the interim care of the local authority and living with foster parents, and her stepfather and half brother. WALL LJ, giving the judgment of the court, said that the judge had the power to enforce by committal the order for contact. R 4.21A of the Family Proceedings Rules 1991, which was concerned with committal for the breach of an order and was directed to private law proceedings, was not exhaustive, but since on its face it was not expressed to apply to orders under s 34 of the 1989 Act, CPR, Sch 2, CCR Ord 29 r 1 was available to fill the gap. It followed that if the court had power to enforce its order by committal, it also had the power to attach to the order a penal notice. It was neither necessary nor appropriate for the circuit judge to assume the powers of a High Court judge under s 9 of the Supreme Court Act 1981 in order to attach a penal notice to a contact order. Since the contact order was now being obeyed the penal notice would be struck out with immediate effect. Accordingly the appeal was dismissed on the question of jurisdiction, but allowed in relation to the continuation of the penal notice.

Appearances: Dermot Main Thompson for the local authority; Marcia Hyde, for the guardian, and Daniel Kingsley, for the stepfather, did not appear but provided position statements in writing of their representative positions.

Reported by: Ben Urdang, barrister.

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I have sent this e-mail and for most of you with children in foster care fighting for contact in the Family courts take the LA back to court using this case law.

I would like to thank my MP Kelvin Hopkins for helping me over the last 5 years.  Has it really been 5 years since I lost my case ,I do not care if it takes another 5 years to resolve our case so that the issue for adopted children to find a genetic key is completed.

The last 5 years have been an eye opener to the corruption and money making scam that these courts waste in both time and taxpayers money . Just because they operate in secret  it is now  no secret  the scale of corruption.

I personally think this is  a very important matter and it should be brought to the media attention in the best interests  of the  general public how long it could take to get vital information which could save a child or persons life.

The GMC are now looking at our case ,just what have the professionals done.More to the point what have they not taken into consideration for leaving medical data for my son to find in the future should he come out of remission from leukaemia.

Some would say this is all academic now . This is now 5 long years that after the bog standard rules were applied by Dr Claire Sturge  & Dr  Anthony Wilkins also Graham Flatman Psychologist for that the abnormal illness behaviour labels were applied to me. My son is in remission now , the risks are changing as children get older . This is the evidence that the courts need to deal with now.

These lables are legally sticky taped all over the reports and sent back to my GP’s surgery and the GP accepts what the expert witness has to say surrounding false allegations and maladministration of evidence put before the court  and to this day they are firmly stuck until I find new evidence to support this has never in the past affected my parenting which it has not so I am innocent in the past of any significant risk of causing harm to my child, however something the experts say they saw or read on file which maybe I have not seen yet maybe said to cause significant harm to warrant a removal of my child from me to safe guard him in the future. I wonder what that evidence is and who supplied it and moreover why I can not access this under DPA?

Coming back to DNA and the right to leave or find a genetic key is the biggest skeleton argument ,which is not being used right now. So that is why I decided to take up  the challenge what with a history of so much cancer and the focus of my sons case him having leukaemia .

The solicitors will not touch me now  or discuss this issue ,as it will go against the other experts for court and the  barristers who so cleverly set me up for this label  in the first place. I never admitted this allegation which is to my credit .

Can we move on to this so called personality disorder that so many parents discuss they are labelled with . This is not confirmed only maybe !!. This personality trait  is about as  ”black” as it can get ,when in fact it is clear I am  from an ethnic group of white  people.

So the motto is this: “never forget who you are and where you came from and hold that note forever  as this is your heritage and your legal right to have access to all the paperwork which best describes  as a legal personality , and have held on record a true description of you as an individual. These so called court experts  should not be given a right to trash evidence  in a secret court  or be given protection or anonymity after they have been found out .

This massive legal Human Rights issue is so over looked ,as it is such a horrible matter to have face facts about cancer that most people chicken out ,or switch off from this subject .When they say that 1 in 4 of us are likely to be the next person to get cancer . This opportunity is missed by families and courts alike to make good the law as it stands to bring in changes to improve matters. Instead the courts are chicken now as they chose to carry on hiding facts and covering up their  mistakes .In favour of covering  up  errors .

So much more could be done with the help of science as children have a right to  find data this should be separated data from court cases . The rights of access to birth parents to find a donor which should be addressed is never going to be done  the  the long term interests of children and adults alike . The shame of UK SECRET COURTS IS THIS THEY ARE NOT TAKEN INTO CONSIDERATION THE LONG TERM INTEREST OF ADOPTED CHILDREN.

For those parents who are new to all of this I want to say never give in ,even if you think you are NEVER  going to get your children back . I certainly will never be a winner ,there is nothing I want more  than closure and at this price only .That is not too much to ask after the courts legally kidnapped my son is it . The right to know does my child have stem cells stored or can we leave a contact list of members of the family ?

The only positive thing to come out of this is doing something for other families coming through the system and if I did not beleive this possible to do, I would have given up years ago.

Some of these families who are living with cancer and battling to live each day are on Facebook talking about their experience they do not have the energy to campaign for this right to find or leave a genetic key and to be honest the normal families do not care about it as it is not their problem they do not have the cancer experience yet.

So very little of this information is filtering down into the media and most important of all to the general public until it is too late so  these hidden facts surrounding cases in closed court of miscarriage of justice are never being discussed in the open it is too sensitive .

Please never  give up, to either the Social Services, or Cafcass or any professional who has abused their power in their position as a practitioner and then tells you that you can not have copies of all the paperwork for court .

This week has been hectic with skype conference calls listening to another mother who has lost her child and also been asked do you think you have this “abnormal illness behaviour?” This kind of thing is rife in the courts and they are using the excuse a lot , this is also not true that it is rare this problem .

Moving on and giving a shout out to Jane Blogs who runs the Stafford Social Service Blog  ”SO FAR  THIS IS WORKING OUT FOR US “. WELL DONE JANE !

So far SO GOOD. I would like to say a big thank you to Jane Bloggs on Facebook in Staffordshire who can not be named this is her alias as Jane told us or rather showed us  her letters and newspaper story how her own  MP David Kidney support her in a similar p..s take from the Local Authority  when they were also with holding information under the DPA  she requested. My MP is offering to help withme with the P complaints to the Parliamentary Ombudsman ,I am tried of the procedure but it is necessary to show I have exhausted every domestic remedy available before going out to ECHR’s.

Cafcass in Luton now tell me that they have my file after stating they have destroyed the file after an extensive search for this in …… I requested copies of this from them  years ago and also more important put in a complaint that was never dealt with at the time a LG was suppose to be representing my 7 year  son .

The earlier posts on here state Luton Social Services breached the 6th Principle of the DPA when they also failed to give me this information .

When Cafcass finally reply to me telling me that I have exhausted the complaints so I can move on albeit at a snails pace  to bring this to the Parliamentary Ombudsman attention which as Francis on Facebook so rightly  pointed out will now be out of time . I will post both letters on here .

I would like to say congratulations to the barrister on Pink Tape who had her baby at home in the UK somewhere in some leafy suburb where we were once proud to call Great Britain .

Great Britain ,there is nothing great, about a country that  would terrorize a pregnant  mother and her partner to flee to another country and seek political refuge .

The made in “Great Britain “now has a new meaning for  many children who are conceived in the UK and then exported to a different country as their families are targeted by Coram sharks posing as legal representatives in the Family courts working for the social services under the guise they are working for the parents as their defense team.

I wish to also say congratulations to the brave young women who fled to have their babies in Spain as the  babies have recently been born a few days ago  to proud parents who are living in exile. Please spare a thought for these families and pray that they stay safe in Spain out of  reach of draconian laws here in the UK courts .

Here is an example of the rights of 1 child to be born in peaceful surroundings at home, versus another child not to be born at home to a mother set up in closed court,something does not sit right with this at all .

http://pinktape.co.uk/

So I am wondering what kind of legal justice system we have going on there behind closed doors ,what happened inside that  secret court room  that lead up to this couple having to sell all their possessions and go on the run to Spain, for the young mother to finally give birth to her unborn son  last week?

Can the British taxpayer really afford the bill for secrecy in the closed family courts and the after shock cases that are likely  to follow on ?

I would like to ask would this be good enough for your family?

Why are more families avoiding Coram based solicitors ?

Would it be really asking too much ,therefore to end trials by expert witnesses only !

Can we please have a panel of real experts instead of 1 expert witness who is near retirement age ,and prone to chattering  away to themselves whilst waiting to give evidence in court ?

It is now time for the  ”UK  SECRET COURTS” take note ,that just like in the euthanasia cases here in  the UK  we have another clear example of how other desperate families  are  taken up new challenges in an effort to resolve family matters.

The families will continue to go around the law that is finally setting out to rule people in society by destroying their family life  with out of date laws which are not going to reflect the life styles for most families. You will also note I said get around the law not break the law.

It is our shame that we sit back and do nothing about this ,when other countries  show us that they are more civilized and able to take on board the true facts surrounding the paperwork for court is a case of serious maladministration.

There is NO justification for these families who are being persecuted and hunted down like fugitives albeit with no criminal record in such a barbaric way . I want to know this, how much is this costing the taxpayer in the UK to foot the bill for these 2 cases and how much have they had to date to first  assess these families , then to hunt them down.

It also looks like both families are from decent post codes areas which is what we have been saying all along easy targets for social workers. Easy money for forced CORAM adoption !

How much of” CORAM IS PRINTED OVER THEIR PAPERWORK?”

http://www.theyworkforyou.com/video/?from=debate&gid=debate/2010-02-23a.243.2http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/families/article7043475.ece

Dear Miss Tadd……

as I have had a lot of hits  this week , I can only conclude it is Luton Social Services reading the blog .I have had a lot of hits about you I would like to tell you what I am intending to do next.

From experience,  we all know the attitude of the Luton Social Services complaints department and other departments through out the country ,and how they have  covered your back for so long. I am willing to let the maladministration run the full length of it’s course until I get a public inquiry which will finally be in the general publics interest to know what kind of people we have working inside Social Care that obviously cares F…k all about children especially children battling to survive leukeamia.

I will tell you what you can do now , you can run off to your legal department and you can guess exactly who has got copies of this paperwork and how far this paperwork has gone using the Clayton ruling and more important of all where will it end up next ?

If you want to play the court game now I have an audience waiting to see how long you get for contempt of court  or more to the point how social workers get for contempt for child abuse. I promise you faithfully that once you make attempts to remove any content from this blog  or get a court order  ,some of your finest work for core assessments and paperwork will be posted online and drop on as many social networking sites all outside of the reach of UK Secret Courts as I have friends across the pond will love to come to my aid and expose what you have done to my son C  , and that includes the in it 2 bin it solicitors in the back pocket of the Local Authority .

Thank you for taking the time to read this I know that you are protected by big gun lawyers who have helped you  cover up your tracks over the last 5 years , but it has failed as the GMC have been sent the paperwork as a 3rd party,the paperwork has been cross referenced  to a complaint put in about the expert Dr Sturge & Dr Wilkins , so just like the Shoesmith saga I am sure you will also have your day back in court and I will finally have the right to Justice .

When is it never child Abuse ? when it is done legally behind closed doors by the corporate parent that is when.

And so that ends the post for today ………

Yours truly

Lyndamac

This firm of solicitors Borneo Linnells who were said to represent my son,what an evil bed fellow Patrick Persusko was when he knowingly  he got into bed with the Social Services ,most important of all please take on board that both interested parties for court   never considered that should my son come out of remission from leukaemia in the future then  contact would be an serious matter or issue  when needing to finding a donor.

The arrogance of these professionals they just done what they know works in court and they done the exact same to us as they do to all families tear you apart, and make sure the contact breaks down  . They never once considered my son had cancer or any other options for his future .

They destroyed  another family whole so that a Non Resident Father could have a relationship with his son. FULL STOP !

The LG  Dale Wood Cafcass officer for court for the child must have done a runner with the file because they will not give it to me .

Would you take a look at these Cafcass Jokers !! They kept the file for private law case in 1999 as this was pulled for court and used in evidence in 2004- 2006.

This said, it was also around this time August 2004 that the expert Dr Sturge  and child’s solicitor Patrick Persusko were labelling me or hinting at the drop down list of things the expert specialized in shall we say.

Dr Sturges name is coming up a lot now in other cases with mothers telling me she is brought in for the final hearing.  Bearing in mind  this expert is so big that she is arrogant to send this fax in the first place .This is  SO leading and it is blatant labelling WITH INTENT !

Fact Finding the problem has to exist first it has to be there in the paperwork , not created for court fact finding which is our experience of closed court  .So let us look again at that fax below The doctor Dr Sturge  has  not read all the bundles, or met me either, the date on the fax and the appointment for meeting them is much later on but she is clearly stating what she is interested in looking at abnormal illness. My child has cancer and she has nothing on me ,I am being done under the criteria for emotional harm only at this stage but it will have to be doubled up to neglect so this 1 shoe will have to fit me too.

After Patrick Persusko (PP isnow a judge in MK) helped Dr Struge to find evidence which were comments left on file historic data that had been left dormant which had no bearing upon my ability to parent or give a good standard of care to my son .

The outcome was damning in so much they used of this historic data, which had no real bearing ,or concern at all about me ,but never the less was used for court to label me with the lighter label of MSBP. Finally all experts had to agree with this ,they said it was abnormal illness behaviour .

When in fact I think they seriously let my son down.The corporate parent& courts alike   should have concentrated on genetics ,and also the long term welfare interests of child C. Surely good old common sense should tell you that if nothing else.

Any decent parent would want to do their best ,or anything to improve matters or put something in for your child,no matter what that was.

Tell me this please do you see anyone representing adopted children to find a genetic key ?I do not see many adopted children being represented in law to find a genetic key.

The corporate parent has not bothered, and the blood parent is too stunned, or far to scared to do anything at all before the final hearing get it in the paperwork  make the solicitors work for their money . I know solicitor drain every ounce of energy out of you,please  do not accept the what is this genetic key they know what it is  ………

This looks to me like serious intent to label me what do you think? and not only that can you see how they are willing to help each too? Frightening to think this pack is waiting with a confident smile on their face for another unsuspecting family to fall into the machine . confident that they will win and you will lose your child .

This paperwork was all contributed to this blog by Coram & Cafcass and you the taxpayer paid for all of this case to the sum of £150 K or more.

These jokers that pass for professionals  better tell me they looked at the long term interests of my son . It is not asking too much that he gets the same chances that other children get when they have access to all of their blood family .

.http://www.waterlowlegal.com/directories/borneo-linnells-solicitors-1403279.ph

Social workers be mindful parents are blogging too. Some like myself  have even gone to the trouble of getting a website hosted in another country. Years ago parents dare not even read the lies that social workers wrote about their families in the paperwork . Now times have changed and we give lessons how to create bundles for court so these children can sue the Local Authority.

How do you think that social worker looks now .Julie Tadd wrote my son was not responding to treatment in 2005. What kind of message it that giving the general public now? My blog statistics were up and 30 + searches were for Julie Tadd  alone. The use of the blogs and the information is filtering down so fast to service users are becoming more informed about who exactly are these individuals working for social services and what are they really up to in child protection?

http://www.communitycare.co.uk/carespace/forums/a-childs-right-to-take-legal-action-what-is-the-6709.aspxAs I’ve recently blogged, much legal work in the UK has been done to promote the right to a child or young person to have their voices heard, from accepting the demands of the UN’s Convention on the Rights of the Child to the implementation of the Local Authority Social Services Department Children’s Representation Procedure [England] Regulations, which required local authorities to feed information on advocacy to young people, as well as explaining the important issues around representation and the complaints procedure.

Recent calls for children to be given the right to take legal action on a council that performs badly have sparked wild debate. Normal 0 false false false EN-GB X-NONE X-NONE Ian Johnston, former chief executive of the British Association of Social Workers, contributed to that debate by saying “here care falls below acceptable standards the children concerned should be entitled to seek redress and the process to secure compensation must be accessible and user friendly.”

Is this the general consensus among those who work in social work?

http://www.4bc.co.uk/articles/article/family-law-bibliography/ Fancy going to this seminar ?

This business of  giving contact to violent abusive fathers all seems to go back to 1999 DV conference  Paula Jackson reports :with expert for court Dr Claire Sturge ,Cherie Booth Blair,& Butler  Sloss  when the professionals  kicked off with the morals of giving contact to violent fathers.

Well sadly  we are nearly well over a decade later ,so what has happened to the relationship for children with mothers? The figures can not be found to say what has happened directly or indirectly to children going missing long term through Coram & Cafcass intervention.

For most of us mothers we report or find each other on line the same place the media come trawling looking  for my shock horror stories post final hearing.Well what does happen to the children then in contact? That is if they actually get contact at all.

Who gives the power to these experts to interact with Universities and for the experts to diagnose all of these barm pot theories for closed court? I met Dr Claire Sturge my solicitor who was Liz Oldham sent me there .

This solicitor must have knew my fate prior to sending me there.I suppose they never really get a chance to force a child with cancer with a none resident parent , have a go at breaking a loving bond with a child really take a massive risk and see if he survives ……

Take a look at these links here please. I have had a few mothers mention Gillian Marks  this ring any bells?http://www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2001/oct/21/featuresreview.review

Take a look at this  a student at University suspended from placement after reading her own file. Trying to get the  general public to wake up about the information being collected , stored and retrieved for court.

I want you to think for a moment what you would do if 1 of these trainee social workers were set lose on your family.I know a mother turned up at the pre -school nursery and her son was kidnapped.

This is the thing they gave us for a social worker Julie Tadd happy in her work so much she has a child to take away with her from the care pool whenever she wants. http://www.communitycare.co.uk/carespace/forums/suspension-from-a-placement-6655.aspx

http://pinktape.co.uk/

Just a message to the social services and judges, how long will I get for telling the truth about the kangeroo court you had me in in February 2005?

Make sure you get all the posts from Facebook won’t you .

No I did not see the Piers Morgan interview with Gordon Brown  I can’t stand people who try and dump this emotion shit they are human. These PM’s and MP’s do not give a  flying …… about families and their loss of children at all.

Welcome Mr Brown to the world of blogging and the fact that we do not care about your loss of your child, why would it matter at all it is only your child makes your pain so  different to a grand mother , a father a mother brother sister when they all mourn the state stole their family away from them .

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/politics/article7026921.ece

Do you know what I hope you never get over it just like us families will never get over it.

I have been asked to post this ,so as a 1 time favor for a domestic violence victim here it is your wish Lyndamac has fixed it for you (Jim will Fix IT !) Maybe I should make Mondays a Lyndamac day for all those women to frightened to come out from gags or confidential hidings inside the Family courts .

Why is it so many of you women won’t blog? but will write to me and send me e-mails to ask me to do it? Still scared?

Portia as you are a good friend and go back to the Mothers For Justice  Forum ,and back in the day there were only 2 of us mothers Sarah White & myself who braved coming out and saying we lost custody of our children for nothing in closed court  I will give you my post space today.

I will then post it to Women’s Aid for you then time for you, I think it is now time to get a blog I keep telling you this  .

Judge and Barristers dance to the tune of abuser in domestic violence case.

Children and Mother continue to be abused by the psychopath legally endorsed by the system in the heart of Suffolk.

In my role as an independent supporter, adviser, and advocate for children and protective parents over the last 15 years, I have encountered and observed many situations of domestic violence and the terrorising of mothers and children by abusive males.

As an example, my most recent case involved a mother with two children and the abject fears, which the abuser brought into their lives. After many years of suffering such violence in all its forms, physical, mental, emotional, sexual and financial, the protective mother was finally able to gather enough strength to escape with her children from the torture and torment of their persecutor and tormentor.

Their sufferings were reminiscent of the 17th Century rather than the 21^st Century. How could this be happening in today’s world – yet it is happening every day, in every part of the country, and at all levels of social class in our society, and with alarming and increasing frequency.

But the abuse and torture did not end with their leaving the family home, but continued and increased. The police records show that the mother suffered extreme mental torture whereby the abuser kept telling his victims daily that he had poisoned her with arsenic and warfarin and that he added dirt to her food, that he could shoot her and she would not feel it, that he could murder and walk away. The Police decided to do blood tests and hair analysis on the victim in the hope of putting the woman’s mind at ease and to find out why she ended up in this condition in such a short space of time.

The abused mother had gone from 10 stone to 7 stone, with her teeth all going rotten in the space of a year, causing her to look like an AIDS victim or a druggie. Every order given by this abuser had to be obeyed. The neighbors describe the fear on the children’s faces on seeing their father drive home and run inside. The abused mother had to get permission for every penny spent in the home. As time went by the mother and children were being deprived of more and more essentials and in the end the children stopped asking, as they knew it was a futile exercise. Their dreams of horse riding and playing golf were shattered.

Ultimate control was the order of the day, even when he was working.

Often it took 3 months of asking to be taken to the shops for shoes for the children before the abuser finally went. By then the whole joy had been taken out of it. The children were no longer allowed to play their pianos and compose music in the home. The mother and children were no longer allowed to sing or paint.Every positive thing the mother did for her children was knocked on the head.

The children sank deeper and deeper into despair.

One day, the children conducted a court hearing at home in an effort to show the abuser what he was doing to them and their mother, in the hope that he would change.They had no idea that a psychopath never changes but only becomes worse when he realizes that their victims are awakening to truth.Pictures show the physical abuse of both children.

The mother had become so ill as to be unable to make a cup of tea.

However the abuser smiled as she screamed in pain and he stepped over her, like she did not exist. If she asked for a soft-boiled egg, because of her teeth, he gave a hard-boiled one, in full knowing that she could not eat it. He then called her a pig. Then he slapped her so hard for not eating that she blanked out from the pain. When the mother asked for an explanation, the abuser said it was to teach her a lesson.

The abuser took sadistic pleasure in watching his victims squirm under his total control and only lost his cool when the terminally ill grandfather of 80 years came in for a week to help out.

That week the mother gained her strength and the children experienced the joys of working and learning from their grandfather.

This act of human kindness sparked the planned exit from the abuser.

The gaunt appearance of the abused mother led most of the professionals to form the wrong opinion of her. The crocodile tears of the abuser worked, leading people to pity him. Inside he was laughing at all of them, as he was succeeding in dividing and destroying the victim’s entire family. The abuser’s ring of destruction has widened and is widening by the day. The system is allowing him to do so.

He is fully aware of what he does, mesmerizing family members and professionals alike, as he entraps all of them in his web The abuser has now managed to worm his way into getting a family member to hold the children hostage and not allow them to see their mother. The children are being used to send messages to their distraught mother that their father is going to buy some arsenic and warfarin and 2 body bags the following day. This is child abuse in itself and continued mental abuse of the mother. Text messages sent in the middle of the night, stating the children are being moved again and the mother will never see them again. One of the children has already ended up in hospital through neglect and no one in the system informed the mother, furthering her anguish.

The dominant male abuser has all around dancing to his tune only. His aim is to have his victim committed, so he can get her house and bring in another woman. After all, he has sucked the living life out of this wife and needs fresh meat to feed on. The abuser even managed to get the GP to force the mother to undergo psychiatric assessments.

A court hearing took place the other day and the abuser applied for occupation of the family home and residence of the children. It is not classified as a domestic abuse case, despite the fact that an advocate from the IDVA being present, photos of bruises on the mother and children being in the hands of the barrister. The judge, barristers etc were clueless and running around trying to do deals, so they could scurry off home. No one listened to the weak voice of the abused, but they all danced to the tune of the bully.So, when the abuser said the first psychiatric assessment of the victim was a fake, the judge ordered another one, but failed to make an order for the abuser to have one, showing clear discrimination of the female victim.

The victim said she felt totally violated and abused by the Judge and legal professionals. All were pushing her to agree to the demands of the abuser.

One would have expected the children to be a priority in this case too, but sadly, the court- in its wisdom has ordered the children to remain hostages in a strange house, stripped of all their own possessions, pianos, computers, books, etc, as these children are home schooled and about 5 years ahead of their peers in state schooling.

In typical patriarchal fashion, the children must obey the abuser for a further 6 weeks and loose out on their education at home. There was not once ounce of human kindness in that courtroom towards the victim, except from the advocate.

The victim was a nuisance to them and they just wanted rid of her. Her weakness and frailty was held against her. The trauma caused to the children and mother by this experience is enormous, but the men and women of the court are clearly ignorant of this or are deliberately condoning it and colluding with a criminal.

The victims are mere numbers, pawns in a chess game and of course as long as the abuser is on the board, the game continues and money is made.

Meanwhile the vultures circle their prey, weak from abuse, in the hope of finishing them off.

This case shows beyond a shadow of a doubt that protective parents and their children are being punished by this patriarchal system for daring to break free of violence and abuse. The system as it is, keeps the protective parent enslaved through the use of children. The only professional to see past the façade is the lady trained in domestic abuse.

In the media it speaks of all the agencies rallying around to help victims of domestic abuse, but 6 weeks down the line and the only agency in sight is an independent domestic violence agency.

Clearly it is a trap to ensnare the protective parents and their children.55% of domestic abuse victims looses their children to forced adoption in the UK.This shows that protective parents and children are being punished for doing the right thing in trying to free themselves from abuse and violence.

The professionals need proper training so they can understand all the dynamics involved in domestic abuse. The professionals need to learn from the survivors. However, most professionals believe themselves to know it all and feel that to speak to survivors is somehow lowering themselves. The truth on domestic abuse is rarely to be found in books. It is to be found though in talking to those who have lived through the abuse and survived.

The next time some professional reprimands a victim of domestic abuse for not coming forward sooner, hopefully, you the reader will have a better understanding of why.

Portia.